In the latest episode of “Married at First Sight”, we discovered more about the relationship between Kevin and Romain.
Kevin and Romain may have had perfect love, but Céline Delfosse, the psychologist and coach of the show, still wanted to highlight a behavior in Kevin which could, in the long term, cause him harm.
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A need to please at all costs
During a post-marriage assessment, Romain expressed what was on his heart, expressing his wishes for the continuation of his relationship with Kevin. “Sometimes I need my alone time” confided Romain. A need, which is not necessarily embraced by Kevin.
While they were on a shopping trip, Romain noticed a few small details in Kevin’s behavior. “I sometimes share his tastes, sometimes not. I remain very honest” confides Romain. “But I think Kevin adapts his personal tastes to my desires. He took off his earring for example, even though I didn’t ask him anything,” he added. A way of acting that Kevin confirmed. “I adapt to what Romain likes, and if I hesitate between two things, I go for what he prefers.” According to show experts, this is a small detail that Kevin needs to pay attention to.
He switches to people pleaser mode. That is to say, it becomes denatured. Dress codes are markers of identity and changing your style is changing yourself and that risks being counterproductive because you lose yourself.
they confide. The people pleaser therefore refers to this need of a person to please those around them at all costs, for fear of disappointing, or provoking conflict. These people then bend to the desires of others, forgetting their own needs. The alarm bells are ringing, especially since this behavior was also highlighted when Romain expressed his desire to take the time. “I needed screenings with Romain” confides Kevin despite everything, who ultimately ends up crashing. “He needs time, so I try not to put pressure on him, or even on me,” he admits. “I can’t say that I want to move in with him now, I need my quiet time” confided Romain.
Romain’s shocking announcement
Romain ended up feeling suffocated despite everything. “I did things I didn’t want to do” confides the young man. “There was a spiral, but I made an effort,” he added, explaining that he was caught between two walls. “I don’t want to manage my life with people who are on top of me,” he confessed, pointing to the imposing presence of his and Kevin’s family around them.
I tried, I did what had to be done. But I feel that I have no feelings arising, and it will be the same in three months, or even a year. I don’t see the point in going any further. I made the decision to end the relationship.
explained Romain, defending that he wants to protect himself. “I especially think that you are not ready to be in a relationship and you have a lot of hang-ups” confided Kevin, stunned by this decision. “I’m frustrated, a little angry. I blame him (…) I think about my heart and I say to myself: it could have happened differently, and it could have been done differently” adds Kevin, who blames the blow, and who wishes to collapse, but keeps his emotions deep inside despite everything. An outcome filled with sadness for this couple, where understanding was nevertheless essential during the show. “They were not at the same stage” concluded the show’s experts.
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