She also shared about their latest wishes.
Palliative care doctor Sarah Wells, who has treated around 2,000 terminally ill patients over 20 years, has revealed what they regret most before they die.
About it writes The Telegraph.
The woman realized she wanted to work in palliative care during a six-month stay in a hospice during medical training. After eight years as a GP, she came to work at the Marie Curie Hospice in Solihull, England.
“The people we care for have a terminal diagnosis. It could be dementia, heart failure, motor neurone disease, advanced cancer, or any other disease that could lead to their death. They usually have weeks to live, and they are disproportionately a lot of young people – although we care for every age in the community, our beds are designed for complex patients, such as parents with young children who do not want to see them die at home,” Sarah said.
The doctor shared that not a single person said that they would like to spend more time in the office. Most regret not spending more time with their family.
“People regret not the things they did, but the things they didn’t do: missed birthdays, missed chances. They also regret putting off practical matters, from making wills to planning funerals. Priorities have changed in recent days: An 18-year-old boy with aggressive bone cancer wanted his Xbox, and a die-hard Wimbledon fan wanted to spend time watching the tournament, eating strawberries and drinking champagne,” she recalled.
Also at the hospice, workers try to satisfy all requests. In particular, a woman living with breast cancer was helped to throw a bachelorette party complete with pink cowboy hats and misplaced balloons.
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“Too sick to stand at the time of the wedding, we took her on the bed to exchange vows with her husband. She died the next day, very happy, at least that the ceremony took place. It is also important to celebrate a life well lived. One man and his 80-year-old wife toasted each other with champagne on their wedding anniversary, just hours before her death. It was a wonderful moment. The same goes for creating a legacy for future generations. We helped a 32-year-old woman with pancreatic cancer “I recorded video of her baby learning to walk, and his hesitant steps through the beautiful gardens of our hospice are forever etched in my memory,” added Sarah Wells.
The woman also shared that such work taught her not to get hung up on little things. She also admitted that she is not afraid to die.
“I understand what’s going to happen and I’m going to make sure I’m surrounded by people I love, because most of all, this job has taught me that our connections with others really matter,” the doctor said.
Let us remind you that the man burst into tears, hearing a voicemail from his late wife for the first time in 14 years. This is a great value for him.
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