Hello, this is probably going to be a long question, or I’ll have to go into a bit more detail so that you understand it, so thank you for reading.
In order not to write a complete novel, I will stick to key points.
-my parents built a house about 30 years ago, separated about 15 years ago (still married on paper)
-Since my sister and I moved out, my mother lives alone in the house, my father lives in his mother’s house. (My grandmother)
-My grandmother (who owned the house in which my father lives) died 3 years ago, after which my sister moved into the two-family house in which my father also lives.
-My sister also has to pay rent, but only 50% of what she would have to pay if she were a stranger.
-my partner and I have been living in another rental apartment for a few years now and my parents offered us the opportunity to move into my parents’ house a few years ago
-Since we are expecting a baby in a few months anyway, the plan is being pushed forward a bit and we are moving into the house, even renting, earlier than planned.
-a few days ago my sister realized that she feels disadvantaged now that I move into the house because then she will have nothing at all
-She also expected that the house would be sold and she apparently wants to buy something with her share.
-We did think about selling the house, but not in the next 2-4 years. My parents just said that we could think about what we wanted to do with it.
-Now my father is also turning against us. He didn’t even realize that we pay rent when we live in the house (which we have already told him 100 times) and he is also indirectly demanding that the house be sold so that my sister and I can have an evenly divided money. He thinks it’s unfair if we move into the house since my sister only has one apartment.
What he doesn’t take into account, however, is that my sister can use the entire house; she has an attic, basement, large garden, garage and doesn’t have the normal restrictions that one normally has as a tenant.
We all want to talk on Sundays, but I (including my mother) find this totally far-fetched.
Can you maybe give me some advice on how we can stay together or to avoid a complete family dispute breaking out?
I hope it was understandable, thank you for answers.
