Jakarta, CNN Indonesia –
Online dating not just about sharing and flirting with each other via text messages, but also talking face-to-face via video. A recent survey found, video dating could be a concept date in the future.
A poll by Lunch Actually – a dating app – found that as many as 65 percent of single men and 57 percent of women have tried video dating.
“The reason [menggunakan video dating] It varies between men and women, “said co-founder of Lunch Actually, Violet Lim, in a press conference for the launch of the survey results, Tuesday (10/10).
For women, video dating considered to save more time and do not need to spend a lot of time on trips to meet potential partners (59 percent). Video dating also rated as being able to screen out those who are physically desirable (51 percent).
Meanwhile for men, the majority (57 percent) considered it video dating so a new, exciting experience in dating. The rest, as much as 51 percent think video dating as a form of time efficiency.
Presence video dating, continued Lim, so the best choice in the midst of a pandemic. Through video dating, so someone has another way of filtering out people he can meet in person.
Not only that, video dating also done like dating ‘offline‘which takes location and time into account. Half of male and female respondents felt that they paid close attention to virtual dating locations.
“I can conclude, video dating so an option, a great alternative to dating in the future, “added Lim.
Lunch Actually conducted a survey of 4,300 respondents in 5 countries, namely, Indonesia, Malaysia, Singapore, Thailand and Hong Kong. The survey was conducted for two weeks by collecting data via email, Facebook, Instagram and LinkedIn.
Initial Scoping Alternatives
One of the video dating users, Aditya, revealed that dating via video was the alternative he chose when the pandemic came.
She admits that video dating is not as real as the face-to-face dating experience. However, this method is considered quite effective for initial assessment and maintaining security and safety from transmission of the corona virus.
“At first we did get to know through an online dating application and then continued to text messages. We wanted to meet him in person several times, but he was quite confused with the current conditions,” said Aditya while talking with CNNIndonesia.com some time ago.
Aditya continued to say, “So for now, this is the most effective way too. I think of it like LDR again. It is sometimes less exciting, but it’s smart to get around like watching a movie together and continue the discussion afterwards.”
Meanwhile, Gabriella considers video dating as an exploratory option in starting a relationship.
“For me, video dating is one way to get to know this person before meeting in person. It was a little awkward at first, but when I click through it, it’s even better to meet in person,” he said when contacted separately.
Apart from the trend of video dating, psychologist Roslina Verauli sees that the use of dating apps will still dominate dating trends in the next year and the future.
“So this condition is influenced by an existing socio-cultural and global situation. Since the digital era, digital natives have indeed taken advantage of digital aspects of life, including dating,” he said when contacted some time ago.
Furthermore, he said that this condition had actually been going on for a long time. It’s just that, the Covid-19 pandemic situation also encourages higher use.
“That’s why over the last one or two decades, online dating is again and always on the rise. And if you look at the current pandemic situation, with everyone being limited and restricted, in the end online dating applications have become one of the media to meet partners,” he added.
To Make Video Dating Fun
Video dating impressed monotonous because of the limited screen. Actually you can get around to keep dating fun even though you don’t meet physically.
Adult clinical psychologist Rekeba Pinaima suggests maximizing dating not only through appearance, but also body gestures and facial expressions.
Rebeka also often finds that many people don’t explore the material for questions or chat topics. “If the question is related to everyday life, that’s normal. Try asking a more interesting question,” he said.
Meanwhile, Lim gave suggestions for preparing drinks. Like on a date offline, usually the food or drink ordered is a good conversation starter. You and your date will ask each other about drink or food choices.
Also, why not plan ‘theme date‘aka themed dating. When chatting via text, you may find things in common with your date, such as a love for certain movies or anime. When dating, try to implement what you love to be the theme of the date.
“Can wear dress code, put on zoom background, this is great to start a conversation and give him a chance to introduce himself more deeply, “he added.
(the / asr)
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