Smiley and Delia Matache are two adults with minds… of children. The partner of Gina Pistol and the jury of the show iUmor from Antena 1 admitted that he suffers from Peter Pan syndrome.
Smiley: I have a Peter Pan complex
The artist Andrei Tiberiu Maria, under his stage name Smiley, confessed, in a podcast, that he suffers from Peter Pan syndrome. Although not a recognized mental health condition, many experts agree that this pattern of behavior can impact relationships and quality of life.
Even though he’s fully grown, Smiley confessed that he doesn’t forget to “play sometimes.”
“I suffer from the Peter Pan complex, I hope I don’t lose it. That saying I say, don’t forget to play sometimes, is so important. The ideal is to find a balance, I always find a balance in everything or try to find it”Smiley said in a podcast.
Delia: My childhood marked me
And Delia Matache admitted, in the podcast moderated by Gojira, that she suffers from the same syndrome. The singer confessed that we are like “some developed children”.
“Our skin is still wrinkled, we have experience and money, but we are still children. We buy toys. With the same joy, I look and say: «iiiiii, toy store, anything, cosmetics, t-shirts». And you are not allowed to forget, it depends on how your childhood marked you. My childhood marked me”the artist testified.
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What is Peter Pan Syndrome?
“All the children but one grow up,” wrote JM Barrie in his 1911 novel Peter and Wendy. He was talking about Peter Pan, the boy who would not grow up, remaining in the adolescent stage. Although there is no magic to stop children from growing physically, some adults continue to cling to the carefree days of youth and find, or at least seek, emotional and financial challenges into adulthood.
Peter Pan Syndrome, the current name for this behavior pattern, first appears in Dr. Dan Kiley’s 1983 book, “The Peter Pan Syndrome: Men Who Never Grow Up.” While Kiley focused on this behavior in men, Peter Pan syndrome can affect people of any gender or culture.
How does Peter Pan syndrome manifest itself?
It should be noted that it is not a recognized mental health condition. However, many experts agree that this pattern of behavior can impact relationships and quality of life.
Here’s some consensus on how this behavior often comes into play in relationships, the workplace, and personal attitudes toward ownership and responsibility.
In relationships, this perhaps appears most clearly in divergent levels of ambition, expectations, life goals, and ability to make commitments.
If your partner has Peter Pan syndrome, you may feel that it would be difficult for them to navigate the world on their own. You might be tempted to regularly help him with his daily chores and more, just to make his life easier and carefree.
People with Peter Pan syndrome may: allow you to plan activities and make important decisions for them, neglect housework and childcare responsibilities, prefer to live only today and show little interest in making long-term plans, show signs of emotional unavailability, such as not wanting to label or define relationships, spend money unwisely and have other problems with personal finances, or avoid in consistently addressing relationship issues in productive ways.
At the same time, those with Peter Pan syndrome also tend to struggle with work and career goals. They might: Lose their job due to lack of effort, lateness or no-shows, put little real effort into finding work, frequently quit when they feel bored, challenged or stressed, work only part-time and have no interest in pursuing promotion opportunities or moving from one field to another without spending time developing skills in a particular area.
Childhood experiences/parenting model
People with Peter Pan syndrome often have overprotective or very permissive parents. Overly permissive parents often do not set many (or any) limits on their child’s behavior. As a result, you grow up thinking it’s OK to do whatever you want. When you did something wrong, your parents took care of any consequences and shielded you from blame (assumption), so you never learned that certain actions had consequences.
If they took care of your financial needs into early adulthood and never expected you to work for the things you wanted, you may not understand why you need to work now.
On the other hand, overprotective parents can make you feel like the adult world is scary and full of difficulties. It may encourage you to enjoy childhood and not experience skills like budgeting, house cleaning, or simple repair skills and relationship maintenance behaviors.
Parents who want to prolong your youth may also avoid discussing these adult concepts with you. This can lead you to not properly orient yourself around these concepts in your own life.
2023-10-10 12:30:27
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