“Understanding Contractual Agreements: Can Lenders Share Borrower Information with Employers and Banks?”

Are they even allowed to do that?

It has proven to be extremely useful to read the contractual agreements / relevant clauses / understandings / statutes etc. that are unknown to us, because such details are usually there.

If you know these, you can continue to discuss them meaningfully.

If anything is unclear, please report back here, post the complete wording of the relevant passages, then we can discuss it in a goal-oriented manner.

I don’t want my house bank and my employer to find out about it.

Then you should express that clearly and verifiably … and then look for another lender. Of course, the search might take a little longer.