The theory of the five languages of amor It has helped us understand that not all people show their love and affection in the same way. While some choose to give gifts, others prefer to hug and kiss their partner. If you don’t know what way you express your love, here we tell you how to know what your love language is.
If you think this is new, you should know that, since 1992, marriage counselor Gary Chapman wrote a book establishing each language and its characteristics. Realizing that his patients did not understand each other, he began to notice patterns in the couples and that made him write “The Five Languages of the amor”, which are: words of affirmation, quality time, gift giving, acts of service and physical contact.
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How to know what your love language is
The author came to the conclusion that each person has a primary language and a secondary language. So people expect to receive what they have; That is, if your partner has the language of “words of affirmation,” they will expect you to tell and remind them how much you love them several times a day. If you don’t, she may think that you don’t love her even though you are showing her love in other ways.
For this reason, some relationships present problems when they do not know the love language of your partner. If you have communication and show your affection in different ways, you can always find a common point so that both parties receive love in the way they like.
Next we will tell you what the language characteristics are so that you know which one you feel most identified with.
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1. Words of affirmation
If you are a person who has good communication skills and does not have trouble expressing your feelings, you may identify with this language. Every time you can, you remind that person how much you love and miss them; You usually praise your partner and recognize their beauty or successes with words or messages. You also enjoy constantly giving words of encouragement, advice, or congratulations.
2. Quality time
If you like to have and organize romantic dates, evenings or spend time with that person actively, this could be your language. It refers to the time you spend assertively with your partner, that is, you don’t like them looking at their cell phones and you avoid distractions and interruptions to your moments together. You put all your attention on what she says and how she feels; You make eye contact all the time and contribute to what he is telling you.
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3. Give gifts
If you see something while out shopping and think it would be perfect for your partner, you may identify with this language. Giving, creating, wrapping and buying gifts is your way of showing that you love that person. Be careful, this does not refer to expensive or very elaborate things, rather to catering to your tastes or items that excite you (like a record or a book).
Nor do you wait for a special date to do it; If you meet, you show up with flowers, chocolates or some candy that your partner likes. You always affirm your love by giving him something, no matter how small it may be.
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4. Acts of service
Have you ever been told that you are helpful? If you are one of those who helps prepare Christmas dinner or you like to clean your friend’s house where they had a party, you could relate to this. It is not difficult for you to do actions for others nor do you think much about it or do it to “look good.”
Being with your partner this is reflected in actions more than in words, for example, if your partner is moving, you offer help to pack or transport their things. You go pick him or her up to work, prepare her favorite food or accompany her shopping. Anything that says “I care about you” is what you do: take care of the person while they are sick or take their pet to the vet.
5. Physical contact
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Although this seems to be implicit in every relationship, some people do not enjoy displays of affection or feel uncomfortable with hugs. So physical contact is not a priority for them. On the other hand, if you usually hug, caress, kiss or simply want to touch that person all the time, this could be your language.
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