Positions can be a very common subject between sexual partners. In the program Sans rendez-vous Thursday on Europe 1, the sexologist and psychoanalyst Catherine Blanc is interested in the favorite sexual positions of women.
Catherine Blanc’s response
“What is the need to know the preferred positions of women? A priori, we do not make love with ‘women’. So we should ask ourselves the question of the favorite positions of ‘his’ wife and in this case, he You have to ask him. It’s a complicated subject. It depends on how you look at yourself and what you want to invest. If I invest my vagina or my clitoris, obviously it is not there. same position that I will apply for.
By the term ‘invest’, I mean ‘what is important to me, what reveals my femininity, what I want to see solicited, what I have the feeling that will be the basis, the source, of my pleasure, my enjoyment or my orgasm ‘. Depending on whether I invest more internally, so my vagina, or externally, my clitoris – although I remind you: through the vaginal route we also stimulate the clitoris and the body of the clitoris – obviously the most popular positions will not be not identical from one woman to another. It depends on how they look at their body and their sex.
If my desire is that of a deep penetration, the positions which allow this deep penetration will therefore be preferred, namely in particular the so-called Andromache position, that is to say when the woman is on the man, that the two are seated or she is on the man lying on her. Another position allowing this deep penetration can be doggy style, that is to say from the back, because there can be deep stimulation, on the back wall this time.
Do you have to do lots of different positions to have successful sex?
If you observe your love and sex life, you may have noticed that in the early days of a relationship there are a lot of uses of a lot of positions, simply because we don’t know each other and we are looking for the position in which we are both the best, the most stimulated. By multiplying positions, we will be able to solicit points different from our respective sexes. In couples, from the moment we know each other well, we know what pleases us more and we tend to repeat it. We like it more because it’s more exciting or more enjoyable, or because it’s more relaxing and it allows us to do it more often.
Sexuality is a good compromise between what is easy – which will allow us to do it easily without having to have slept four days to have the physical capacity – and what allows us to be most quickly aroused and in enjoyment. Earlier, I was talking about deep penetration: if now I prefer to be stimulated rather on a friction at the level of the glans of the clitoris, obviously than all the positions – if we only refer to coitus, I am not talking about masturbation – where the man will be on the woman and so very close, so that the back and forth rubs the clitoris, will be preferred. I am thinking, for example, of the missionary position.
Does rhythm matter during sex?
Yes, but you don’t always have to have the same tempo. It is not a systematic recurrence, it is necessary to be able to slow down and accelerate. Moreover, often, women indicate it: they indicate it by their own movements or by the way of grabbing the body, the buttocks of the man. Even for humans, you have to vary the rhythm, write music, rather than be in something repetitive. “
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