In recent years we have filled our mouths with the word sorority. Drunk with sorority, some feminists have signed an unspoken pact that allies women against any aggression. They become sisters to degrease the patriarchal machinery and accomplices to applaud the Michelin, the stretch marks or the expired chest. Sororas to hand out the handkerchief to a celebrity when she cries her eyes out. But what happens when a woman celebrates life and boasts of a statuesque body?
Goodbye sorority and carte blanche to insult. Cristina Pedroche can talk about it. The presenter, who gave birth to her daughter on July 14, had the idea of posting a video in which she showed her wonderful postpartum recovery thanks to healthy habits, sports, healthy food and meditation. “Here there is no luck or miracles, there is a lot of preparation before and during the pregnancy,” she wrote. The networks broke out and she was the object of the most stark criticism. Suddenly, beauty seemed to transform for her detractors into a monster of patriarchal domination that promotes inequality and mistreats those who she believes do not possess it.
After accusing doctors of obstetric violence, the most radical feminism now suggests that aesthetic violence exists as another form of female aggression exerted by the beautiful woman herself. From the comments that Pedroche has received, it is clear that they would send her beauty to the scaffold for understanding her as a risk to the rest, a source of self-esteem problems, eating disorders and serious emotional sequelae.
LA RAZÓN has analyzed the situation with experts. Ana Castro Liz, a clinical psychologist, laments the drift of the term sorority: “This term enunciates the ethical and political principles of equivalence and equal relationship between women. It is an alliance that promotes trust and support, as well as fostering recognition among women. Taking into account this concept so modern and valued by feminists, women continue to compete, compare and weaken themselves with comments continuously. A clear example is what happens continuously on social networks, where we witness campaigns to devalue one another”.
He warns that, parallel to the war against the patriarchy, a foolish battle between them has broken out. “Competing for success, for physique or for how to develop motherhood and for a certain idea of what it is to be a mother is a sad reality. Competing is a natural process for human beings, but criticizing makes us regress as a species, ”she says.
As often happens, anonymity and the feeling of impunity embolden people more and, in Castro Liz’s opinion, this encourages more verbal violence on the networks, a place where many people vent their frustrations. “Unfortunately -he indicates-, their attitude when showing these types of comments indicates that they are not prepared to connect with the joy of others or with the happiness of others because they cannot find their own and that generates greater unhappiness for them”.
Why do women subject each other to such scrutiny? For the psychologist it is something that comes from male-dominated societies. “The more power the man has over the woman, the greater the rivalry between them. Although it happens in all countries, it occurs with a more marked character in those where there are fewer women incorporated into the world of work. It is where the physical is given more importance ”.
Rivalry brings with it winners and losers. “This has clear consequences for the self-esteem of those who are judged, but also for those who are not chosen by that blessing of which those who are criticized boast. They cover up complexes and insecurities that are deeply internalized, as well as envy and hatred”.
After its publication, Pedroche has been forced to give explanations in case her statements had been misunderstood, adding that hateful comments affect her. Not even with this her criticisms have stopped. It is striking that she has to justify that her physique, at least in large part, is not due to divine grace, but is the result of her habits. What reproach does she have?
“We are what we eat. This sentence is completely true. There are foods that are toxic to our body, they inflame us, make us fat, to end up getting sick. Even so, we are free to eat what we want, but then we should not be envious of those who have a good figure and follow a healthy diet. That is to say, of antiaging and longevity”, settles the doctor Ana Téllez, aesthetic doctor and stomatologist. She guarantees that, by avoiding some foods and introducing others, anyone would notice the change from the first week.
But it is possible that those who attack Pedroche do not want to have her measurements, which would be natural, but rather that they want her not to have them. And that is called envy, pure and simple. It would be healthy if it led us to admire it, but the envy that does not focus on oneself, but on the other and making him fall is clearly unhealthy.
Other celebrities have been judged by their postpartum figure
Obstinate in putting the accent on mourning for the body that left with motherhood and not on the joy of birth, the networks are reluctant to admit those women who, due to genetics, habits that come from behind or timely care during pregnancy , they can show off a figure, never better said, enviable. Pilar Rubio, Heidi Klum or Kate Middleton. They are some of the celebrities who have been sentenced for understanding that their beauty creates pressure for other women in labor, despite the fact that they never said anything about being examples for other mothers.
Ashley Graham and Meghan Markle, however, were applauded for keeping up their postpartum bellies. Georgina Rodríguez decided, without success, to also expose her kilos. Accustomed to virtual sticks, she concluded resignedly: “Whatever you do, you will be criticized.”
2023-08-14 02:09:58
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