Beware of the chicane virus during the holiday season. He is often imperceptible at first, but he grows up very quickly, feeding on misunderstandings, grayness, pride, principle, texts, emails … just about everything, except a good conversation of spirited and with a little humility. It can last a lifetime and has wreaked havoc on many families in Quebec.
“The chicane is a gray insect that feeds on pride and principle. “
– François-David Bernier
HOW IT CAPTURES AND GROWS:
WHEREAS there is a restriction on the number of guests to 10 people for the Holidays;
WHEREAS there are vaccinated people and unvaccinated people;
WHEREAS unvaccinated people should not be invited to verification evenings;
WHEREAS it is not recommended to have several evenings in a row.
IT IS AGREED that all of these are very favorable to the baffle virus. How to choose your guests without offending others? How not to put in the head of the brother-in-law that it is not because we did not invite him that we do not like him?
There are many situations in life where the baffle virus easily develops. One can think of during a divorce, when the business partners separate and – not least! -, during a succession. They are classics you tell me. Indeed!
What brings all this fertile ground together, and this includes the news of COVID parties, is most of the time pride, lack of confidence, incomprehension, THE PRINCIPLE, writings devoid of emotion that do not want not say exactly what you meant, etc. I’m sure a lot of things come to mind.
How to prevent it
Speak orally to the people concerned, they will understand better. SMS, email, and proxy messages often lead to misunderstandings, and these misunderstandings can increase dramatically over the years. How many times have I heard, “If I had known that, I wouldn’t have been angry”? …
Set up a way of selecting your guests, a “system” or a precise criterion, for example: the very close family, the brothers and sisters, those we did not see last year, the team of curling, or “all the guests, bring me their COVID-negative tests as a gift”.
Blame it on Doctor Arruda, as he proposed so well at the press conference where the bad news was announced. Especially if you are excluding someone who is not vaccinated.
The choice of words is also important, and above all you need to have a little diplomacy. It is enough to make the people concerned understand the reasons which inhabit us and the why. Example: if you want to make someone understand that you cannot invite them because they are not vaccinated, instead of telling them that you do not want to see them because they are not vaccinated and that it is is a very selfish person, tell him that the fact that he is not vaccinated worries you and makes you feel like you are putting your family in danger.
In these troubled times, the “phone” function of your smartphone will be your best ally!
Happy Holidays!
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