‘I’m sure you’ll bounce back’, ‘How much weight have you gained?’ or ‘Are you pregnant again?’ If you have just given birth, you are left speechless after such a comment. You got these ideas and here’s how to deal with them.
We asked you about the weirdest comments you’ve received. A selection of the answers;
Ann Roos: Opening the door and being greeted: ‘oh hello baby’ (3 months after birth)’
Danielle: “When are you due?”, while my child was in my arms. And then they look at you strangely even when I reply with ‘excuse me?!’
Anita: “I thought you had already given birth…”
Lisanne: ‘Your baby is twelve weeks old? Oh, if you look really good!’
Cora: “So, are you pregnant again now?” (few weeks after birth)’
Purchase: “I thought you’d be skinny by now!” (month after childbirth)
Jessica: ‘Two days after I gave birth I heard “you’re still so fat!”
Sea heard six months after giving birth and with five extra kilos on the scale: ‘Are you still that heavy? Don’t let things get further out of hand!’
Veronique he was called ‘Bertha the milk cow’.
Sophie he was advised to ‘breastfeed for a long time to lose the kilos quickly’.
Unnecessary and pointless, such comments. But it is also better not to give better comments or suggestions such as ‘you look so good again’ or ‘you are so thin again’, explained the American therapist and specialist in Jennifer Rollins’s order to eat. Scary mommy
Here’s what the expert says
She says: “These seemingly positive and well-intentioned comments reinforce the slender beauty of beauty. She emphasizes that each person’s relationship with their own body is different, and that each pregnancy is different. You never know if someone is struggling with their mental or physical health.
Multiple studies have shown that the rebound stories are only harmful to new mothers, increasing the risk of eating disorders and postpartum depression. “Our bodies change and grow throughout our lives,” said the expert. “The postpartum period is already a vulnerable time, and an increased focus on weight and body size could be a recipe for disaster. “
She continues: “From sleep deprivation, hormonal shifts and adjusting to a new normal, the last thing anyone needs is for the toxic ‘kick back’ culture to enter the head and placing more weight and judgment on their body size. Your body has done something pretty amazing (growing a human life), and that’s what counts. “
How do you deal with such comments? Rollin recommends a few key phrases to remember when someone starts talking nonsense about your body.
- “I focused more on my baby than my body size.”
- “My body is amazing – it grew like a baby!”
- “I was so busy after giving birth that I didn’t take care of my body.”
- “My body has been growing my baby, so I’m focusing on that, rather than its size. ”
- “I would like to ask that no comments be made about my body.”
You also have every right to quickly change the subject or withdraw from the conversation altogether.
Bron: Scary Mommy.
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2024-04-17 11:05:44
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