For single people it can be annoying to be asked why you do not have a boyfriend – whether single life is a conscious choice or not. If you are single and enjoy it, you may still miss a girlfriend – and perhaps especially in periods when you are a little lonely or down.
It spoke Vegard Harm (26) about when he hosted the latest episode of the podcast “Ida with her heart in her hand” with Ida Fladen (36) in the chair.
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She is curious as to why the 26-year-old does not have a boyfriend.
Harm has become a popular presenter, comedian and influencer. He started his career in the video sharing service Vine where he became Norway’s most followed profile.
Opens up about dating and sex
Together with Morten Hegseth (36), they have led the “Panel” on VGTV and have the podcast “Harm & Hegseth” together. In 2019, they won the audience award on Gullruten. Now the duo is relevant with the first season of “Harm & Hegseth” which is an online talk show.
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The shape of the day determines the desire for a girlfriend
– You’re still single? asks Fladen a good distance into the episode and is greeted by a loud laugh.
Yes, Harm is still single. The follow-up question of whether he wants a girlfriend is not as easy to answer, but he concludes that yes, he wants a girlfriend.
– Sometimes I can think that I want someone to share life with, do things with and someone I can have, me too. I want people to say, “Yeah, are Vegard and his girlfriend coming?”
Vegard says that he has never been in a relationship, never engaged with anyone over time, that he does not date and that he does not flirt or hold hands. With minimal experience in the field, it is difficult to know how to deal with love.
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– Do not know who I will be
As a 26-year-old, the influencer knows that friends around him get boyfriends and become more established in life, and could imagine being part of that wave. But the threshold for going on a date is high.
Eases the veil on the dream man
It does not mean that he does not get an offer, but that he has destructive thoughts about himself that often result in dating situations.
– I do not trust myself in such a setting. I do not know who I will be. I have to have some weapon to distance myself from, because I get really insecure and scared. I do not want to show who I really am. I have to have a shield up.
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In an interview with VG in 2021 he told that he has a fear of ending up lonely and alone. Harm thinks it’s mostly about him being afraid of what the other person will think of him and being afraid to show himself from a vulnerable side.
This case was first published on KK.no
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