How have you been creative with intimacy or sex? Midwife and author Uwe Porters (33) asked this question to 43,300 Flemish people on Instagram. She received hundreds of anonymous responses: we collected the most striking ones and together with Uwe we learned a few important lessons about our sex life. “I imagine him being someone else, like his best friend. Nice and kinky.”
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Lessons for home: “This is an effective way to add variety to your sex life”
Midwife Uwe Porters (32) posts a spicy question on Instagram every week and thus manages to get the Flemish out of bed. It reveals our — often surprising — erotic preferences and habits. What will this week reveal? Creativity in bed is not only fun, it’s also necessary to keep the fire going.
“That is certainly the case in long relationships,” says Uwe. “In the beginning, sexuality is driven by love hormones. Everything is new, everything is fun. But once that first rush of love has subsided, you really get to know each other. Then your intimacy and sexuality really begins.”
The desire for sex does not come out of the blue. This does not happen spontaneously, especially in women
Uwe Porters
Many couples then complain about a difference in desire, says Uwe. “That makes sense, because a desire for sex does not come out of the blue. Certainly not with women. So to speak, a woman needs seven stimuli to get in the mood, while a man sometimes only needs one.”
So when you have a busy week at work, have responsibilities at home and have to take care of children, it is not surprising that the sparks in bed are not automatically there. Intimacy and passion require time, effort and space.
“Someone said: we put sex in our agenda. That doesn’t sound sexy, but sometimes it’s a great idea. You can first cook together, go out for dinner or do something else to create connection. And there are other playful ways to keep your sex life fresh and exciting.” Uwe analyzes the three most common answers in her inbox that she believes also have the greatest effect.
1. Sexting
“Sexting is a smart way to spice up your sex life,” says Uwe. She previously gave tips on how to do sexting in an accessible way. “Usually it doesn’t matter what’s in the photo or in the message. The intention is often more important than the end result. And the self-confidence that oozes from it is often incredibly attractive.”
2. Lingerie, toys and other accessories
“The responses show that many people use lingerie, toys, handcuffs, a blindfold, etc. That is indeed an effective and easy way to add variety to your sex life.”
3. Talk
“Talking about sex makes you want to have sex. ‘Shall we try other positions? Shall we go to a party? Or to a swingers club?’ Yet many people do not yet know how to start such a conversation, so they look for tools. The ‘Break the Week’ can help, just like the ‘Break the Week’ cards with stimulating illustrations. Other people use question games, games with assignments or apps such as Xconfessions.”
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2023-09-28 10:33:39
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