And how to understand that you yourself are breathing unevenly towards someone
Many people find it difficult to admit their feelings for a person. There is always a fear that they are not mutual. By what signs can one understand that mutual sympathy still exists?
IZHLIFE spoke with a psychologist Ksenia Mathur about how to find out that someone has fallen in love with you or that you yourself have fallen under someone’s spell.
Who cares about me?
First: a person pays attention to you, writes, calls, is interested in your life.
Believe me, if a person was not indifferent to you, he would not write to you at all. And here he can write about any reason, even the most banal. And, of course, does not forget to take an interest in your life. In general, he pays attention to you.
Second: the person is looking for meetings with you.
Sometimes it seems that nothing can connect you with a certain person at all. But for some reason you keep crossing paths. Of course, this could be random. But it’s not for nothing that they say that accidents are not accidental.
Third: when he sees you, his behavior changes dramatically.
He may begin to feel embarrassed and worried. It also happens that he behaves constrained, looks away, and his voice trembles. Pay attention to how he usually behaves in other situations. If it’s completely different, then that already says a lot.
Fourth: asks other people about you.
Of course, learning about other people’s conversations is not an easy task. But still, if it suddenly turns out that a certain person is interested in you from mutual friends, think about it.
Fifth: body language.
When you are around and communicating, pay attention to body language. For example, you can look your interlocutor in the eyes. If the pupils are dilated, it means that the person is thinking about something (or someone) pleasant and it is quite possible that it is you who are producing this effect. It also happens that he or she is looking for touch with a person he or she likes. And the most interesting thing is that someone who has feelings for you can “mirror” your movements. If your interlocutor unintentionally copies your movements, postures and manner of speaking, then this already says something.
“Being in love is a kind of passion, an obsession. Due to the unusual emotional intensity, she is mistakenly praised as “true love.” However, falling in love does not always grow into love, and love can arise without falling in love,” warns the psychologist.
Do I like him or not?
If all thoughts about him are a sure sign of falling in love. Photo: editorial archive
First: all thoughts are about him or her.
If you constantly think about the object of your attention, want to be close to him or communicate, are looking for a reason to meet and communicate – perhaps he has already won your heart.
Second: no desire to do routine things
At such moments, you don’t want to do anything: neither study, nor work. You constantly fly in the clouds and fantasies.
Third: a surge of energy
But strength appears for any accomplishments, unusual actions, and activity increases. You can forget about food and sleep. This usually happens if it seems to you that the love is reciprocated and there is hope for reciprocity.
Of course, there are also opposite cases. If you understand that the feelings are not mutual, then you may experience apathy or even depression.
Fourth: you want to do something nice for the person.
If you want to pay more attention to a person, be with him, give gifts, then you are definitely breathing unevenly towards him.
Fifth: he or she is the ideal person for you
If you see no flaws in a person, but only the best and the best (and no one can convince you of this), it’s time to admit to yourself that you have fallen under his or her spell.
“Lovers forget about food, sleep, study, work, etc. about everything that is not related to the object of their adoration. In their blood, the level of a protein that activates communication between nerve cells in the brain sharply decreases, as a result of which all human reactions slow down significantly. At the same time, the level of immunoglobulin increases, which leads to increased immunity to various infectious diseases and even cure of a number of chronic ones,” Ksenia shared an interesting fact.
2023-10-08 10:07:00
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