Setting Limits with In-Laws: Maintaining a Healthy Relationship with Your Partner’s Parents

You can choose your partner but not their parents. The combo is already included. The problems arise when they intervene in the relationship. There are in-laws who are controllers and they want to know even the smallest detail and even criticize the way to educate grandchildren.

In Ecuador the family weight is strong, that is why there are parents who they are interested in knowing the origin of the future son-in-law or future daughter-in-law.

The psychologist Jennifer Carranza recommends that to set limits on your partner’s parents You must prioritize your family. “Make your decision to create your own family count. Since you left your house, you no longer belong to that environment, ”says the specialist.

The limit can start like this: don’t let them arrive unannounced. You have to be clear and tell them: ‘we probably won’t be there’.

For the good of your relationship and yours sets fixed limits, these will help you maintain a healthy relationship.

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speak peacefully

It is important that this topic touch it first with your partner, after this talk with your parents and your in-laws. Speak calmly and firmly.

Forget the comparisons

Don’t tell your partner that your mom cooks better than her or vice versa. No one is better than anyone, both people are important in your life.

Be careful, they interfere with the income of the house

Do not allow them to help you pay the mortgage on the house either nor the letters of the car, with this action they feel entitled to meddle in your financial decisions. It is up to you and your partner if they get into debt to travel.

Don’t let them get into your troubles

Parents are generally in favor of their children, therefore they cannot advise the relationship. There are messes that you can fix at night with your partner, while you stay at odds with your in-laws.

Caution!

By setting limits you are not selfish. You have every right to establish rules in your family nucleus. Break the stereotype of your parents or your in-laws. Well, times change.

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