The sex life of couples is always considered a delicate matter. Many people, despite having problems in lovemaking, do not dare or do not know who to share it with.
Only when they can’t stand it anymore do they go to experts, doctors or maybe send their feelings to secret counseling programs to get help.
Ms. Hai Huyen and her husband Anh Huy are both 39 years old this year, from Hai Phong. On the outside, everyone thinks that Huyen’s family is happy, but this woman is looking for every way to escape from her husband in “that matter”.
Many women, when their husbands demand too much sex, still grit their teeth and endure it, without appropriate resistance measures. Illustration.
“It’s embarrassing to say it out loud, but everything has been beyond my tolerance. Living next to my husband always feels worried. The reason is because my husband asks for sex every day, even when I’m on my period,” Ms. Huyen confided in a letter in a program about secrets.
According to Ms. Huyen, she often did not dare to go home because she was afraid her husband would ask for sex.
But I couldn’t avoid it forever, so I had to endure it. “One time when our family was having a meal, he pulled me into the kitchen to suggest we have sex.
I was obsessed, at home I never dared to wear pajamas or short clothes because I was afraid that doing so would stimulate my husband even more. Many times I wonder if my husband is sick or addicted to sex and I don’t know what to do so that my husband and I can have a normal life like everyone else,” Ms. Huyen shared.
Associate Professor, Dr. Nguyen Hoai Bac – Head of the Department of Andrology and Sexual Medicine (Hanoi Medical University Hospital) said that not only men but many women also have quite high sexual desire. However, not all cases we equate with addiction or disease.
According to Dr. Bac, when we call it addiction, it has become a disease that must be treated, but if it is just increased desire or high sexual need, it is a physiological problem of each individual and must find a way. to harmonize needs accordingly.
“In the above case, the husband has such a need for sex that he demands it every day, not just once but twice. In particular, if the husband wants to be satisfied anywhere, anytime, even when the family has work, he calls his wife into the kitchen to “have sex”, this is a loss of control over sexual needs.”, Doctor Hoai Bac commented.
According to the wife, Dr. Bac believes that the possibility of her husband being “addicted to sex” is quite high.
However, to know most accurately, you need to see a doctor, from there you can get the correct diagnosis and the best treatment.
“When we receive you, we will evaluate your sexual needs, how to control them, and how they affect your life and work… Along with that, we will conduct an in-depth examination to make the most accurate assessment.”, Doctor Bac said.
Cases with high sexual needs that affect health and work need to see a doctor soon. Illustration.
Dr. Nguyen Thi Phuong Mai – Deputy Head of the Department of Treatment of Stress Disorders and Sexual Health – Institute of Mental Health said that there are many causes of hypersexuality and sexual addiction and the rate is often higher in men. than women.
According to Dr. Mai, many studies show that dopamine and serotonin are considered to play a central role in the pathogenesis of sexual instinct release disorders, sexual dysfunction, and hypersexuality. In addition, in some cases the cause is related to hormones and disorders of the hypothalamic-pituitary-gonadal axis.
Doctor Phuong Mai warns that when sexually addicted, if not intervened, the patient can exhaust their body and health due to too much frequency of sex or masturbation. In the long term, this condition will directly affect the patient’s physiological and sexual abilities.
This disease makes it difficult for patients to concentrate on work and easily distracted, thereby directly affecting the quality of daily life. Therefore, early examination and timely treatment when there are signs of sexual abnormalities are very important.
* The names of the characters in the article have been changed
