I’m 30 years old and just got married 3 months ago. Our marriage was on the brink of collapse, the root cause of which was incompatibility in our sex life.
He is a kind person who loves his wife very much, but he cannot satisfy me in sex, which makes me extremely sad.
We met each other through matchmaking. We are both older and intended to get married from the beginning, so we got married after only 4 months of knowing each other. When in love, he is polite and somewhat traditional, different from my previous relationships.
Every time he goes on a date, he just likes to hold hands and hug gently. He said he wanted to save it until marriage before having sex. Hearing that, I was very happy because I married a kind man.
After 3 months of marriage, I learned that my husband has erectile dysfunction (illustration)
After getting married, I thought the wedding night would be the happiest night, but in reality, my husband “had already spent all his money before going to the market”. He seemed extremely embarrassed and apologized to me for not being able to satisfy his wife. I let it go, because the two of them had never done that anyway. Husband and wife sleep with their backs to each other knowing for sure that neither of them can sleep.
However, after that, even though I tried to nourish my husband, in the hope that we would have passionate nights of lovemaking. But the second evening, the third evening… passed and the situation still did not improve at all. Many times, I threw away my embarrassment to make advances, but he ignored me.
Last weekend, when I spoke frankly with him about this issue, he admitted that he had erectile dysfunction. He said he had been treated a lot, but the situation was not getting better.
His previous girlfriends also left him because he couldn’t satisfy them, so when he loved me, he didn’t dare do anything because he was afraid I would leave him like them.
He said that sex is not the most important thing in marriage, so he hoped I would stay with him and live with him. When I heard that, I thought deeply. Agree that to have a happy marriage requires many factors.
However, for me, not being satisfied during sex makes me feel very restless and uncomfortable.
Not to mention, if he is physically weak, it will be more difficult for us to have children in the future. In your opinion, what should I do now?
