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“Shirt on the floor” is the new section of “24 hours” for sex.
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“Shirt on the floor” is the new section of “24 hours” for sex. Inspired by the popular men’s replica line “My shirt looks best on the floor in your bedroom”, it draws attention to the male point of view. It will be published every Saturday by Dimitar Martinov.
After two people are intimate for the first time, the question invariably arises – do we have a relationship, or are we just friends for sex. Of course, it’s not okay to ask the question “Do you want to be boyfriends”, because that was somewhere before eighth grade.
That is where one of the differences is. When someone does not want commitment, but just regular sex, he usually raises the topic himself and declares it. Without asking. This saves a lot of awkward moments. Unfortunately, some take it for granted. Therefore, their partner must rely on different signs to find out if they are in a relationship or just having fun.
One of the surest ways to know you’re in a relationship is to see each other at least twice a week for at least a month. Psychologists believe that this is a sign that you want to spend time with this person. And they point out that if not every one of these views ends in sex, you may be adamant that you have a boyfriend.
The very communication between the two can also be indicative. If he answers you during a Juventus match, he is certainly in love with you. The frequency of the messages exchanged may indicate a connection. Their content – if you are wondering how you are, how your day went, and not just understand when and where to see each other, are also signs that you have something more than a sex friend.
Conversely, if your communication is limited to understanding the place and time of seeing, you are more likely to have a purely sexual relationship. There’s nothing wrong with that, as long as you both agree with them and don’t expect anything more. They can last a very long time. Silvia Ivanova, for example, says that she has had a friend for sex for 8 years. Her friend James is an American whom she met while a student in London. They helped with their studies, they decided to have sex without commitment. After graduation, he returned to the United States and she returned to Bulgaria.
“Our sex was great and we decided that we could continue to see each other in the future. We do it 3-4 times a year “, says the 29-year-old woman. And he explains that they meet for a week. We went to Spain, France and several American states. They were even in Argentina once. “However, I have never been to his state and I have not met his relatives, nor he – mine,” says Sylvia. And he explains that he and James rarely write to each other. They communicated once a month, enough to agree on the next meeting place.
They interrupted their meetings only while one of the two was in a relationship. They were then warned that the next trip was canceled. “Actually, we didn’t see each other once for a whole year, because we both had boyfriends. In the middle of our relationship, we decided that we still wanted to have sex with each other, “said the woman.
And while Sylvia and James are okay with such a relationship, Stoyan Boyanov says that he happened to be in such a relationship. “I was 32 when I met a woman 13 years my senior,” he recalls. She was also divorced with two children. “In the beginning we tried to be boyfriends and see each other often. It turned out that it didn’t work – she just had to look after her children “, he describes the situation. They had sex, so they decided they could keep doing it. They met once a week when the woman’s children were with their father. “We literally saw each other for 2 hours and grabbed each other by the door,” the man said. He ended his relationship with her when he decided it was time for a serious relationship.
However, Petya Kirilova was scalded by such relations. “From the beginning, he told me he was only looking for sex. I thought I was totally okay with that. We saw each other once or twice a month, but gradually I realized that this was not enough for me “, says Kirilova. And she explains that when she dared to raise the issue, the man was angry. “I was told we got along,” she recalled. And she explains that she mourned the man for several months.
Pure sexual relations are preferred by 42% of people between the ages of 18 and 30, according to a study from last year. of Vogue magazine. In it, they explain that this is the time when they need to focus on their studies and then impose themselves in their work. Therefore, they would not have time to be fully committed to the relationship. “We do not work from 9 am to 5 pm. If I have a purely sexual relationship with someone, I may not write to them for days and call them at 11 pm, ”explains Elizabeth Jones, who participated in the survey. She is adamant that condoms should always be used in such relationships, even if they last a long time.
According to her, however, it was possible that her purely sexual relationship with someone would grow into a relationship. He gives an example with his girlfriend, who had such a relationship with a man for 4 years before they decided to become boyfriends.
For others, however, it is insulting to have only sex. “I am not a means of relieving tension for someone,” says Ina Stefanova. “If you’re with me, you’re with me while I’m in lace lingerie and while my nose is running,” said the 23-year-old. Many men agree with her and prefer relationships. According to them, this is the only way a person can feel completely comfortable, and in purely sexual relations there is always something missing.
And according to a Vogue study, sex is more likely to occur between colleagues.
About sex at work place read in the next issue of “Shirt on the floor”
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