It’s quite common to hear that people, talking about work, already say on Monday: “Oh my God, how I’m waiting for Friday!” In general, it is quite sad, because work is a place where we spend a large and significant part of our lives.
Does this mean that the vast majority of us have chosen the wrong profession? Or is the person simply lazy by nature and would rather spend their time lounging on the sofa? The truth is probably somewhere in between. But it also happens that work brings joy, but the work environment itself is toxic. And if in the beginning you jumped out of bed in the morning, hummed your favorite song in the shower and couldn’t wait to get to work, then as time went by, your enthusiasm began to wane until it disappeared completely and the thought of going to work brings only an unpleasant turn in the stomach.
You may be experiencing mobbing at your workplace. And in this article, I will share the signs that will make it easier for you to recognize if it really is. Because it’s very important to spot the signs of violence in the bud before the toxic snowball hits you. And yes, you have to know how to protect your boundaries, otherwise someone will constantly cross them and poison your life. Usually, it starts quite innocently, no one bulldozes right away – small comments, small jabs, incomprehensible reprimands, such small “innocent” conversations behind the back – well, who doesn’t, right?
At first, you don’t even understand what’s going on, maybe only after a meeting or drinking coffee in the shared kitchen, you have an unpleasant aftertaste, an inner feeling that something is wrong, but you can’t define what exactly. And the next moment you are already in the black sheep collective, you are being avoided, because who wants to be in your place? It’s better to stay away.
For the sake of justice, we must also admit that the other person cannot completely get into your skin – what one will perceive as an ironic joke, for another can ruin the whole week and fall asleep on a crying pillow in the evening.
We are very individual. Therefore, if you are offended by the cynical jokes of a colleague, you need to tell him, because he probably does not realize it at all, he has reviewed Dr. House and tries to shine with black humor at every opportunity.
Here are seven signs that you are experiencing emotional abuse in your workplace:
Unfounded criticism. Constructive feedback is even very necessary for growth and increasing work productivity. However, constant negative criticism and belittling that undermines self-esteem, making you feel like everything you do is bad can be a sign that you are experiencing workplace bullying. Social isolation. You are constantly excluded from important meetings and communications. Suddenly you are having lunch alone. It is possible that your workplace has suddenly and for no apparent reason been moved to less comfortable premises, further away from others.
Rumor and gossip. They spread false rumors and negative stories about you that tarnish your reputation. Denial of resources and opportunities. You are denied training to improve your qualifications, you do not receive the same bonuses as other colleagues. Perhaps you are assigned to perform unfulfillable tasks that will inevitably lead to failure and undermine your self-esteem even more.
Unreasonable penalties. These may include punishments that seem disproportionate to the offense committed, as well as punishments and negative comments without proper explanation and justification. Health symptoms. The stress caused by emotional abuse can manifest itself physically. Depression, insomnia, headaches, anxiety and depression may occur.
Hostile environment. Being at work feels like walking through a minefield. When you enter the room, you can feel the tension, you may feel the open hostile behavior of your colleagues, which can also be expressed through body language, for example, looking at each other or expressing with facial expressions that they are uncomfortable with your presence. Perhaps you have come across a situation where during your presentation some colleagues are talking to each other and laughing, maybe even making disparaging comments out loud.
Usually, the abuser will look for allies by testing your boundaries. And remember, it starts with small steps. But violence tends to increase, so it is very important to draw your own boundaries, to be able to stand up for yourself. This does not mean becoming an arrogant hedgehog who sees potential threats and offenses in everyone. No one has canceled the ability to socialize, communicate and adapt. However, when conforming already becomes an indulgence and begins to change you as a person, it is no longer healthy.
Emotional abuse, whether at work or at home, is very serious and dangerous and can have devastating consequences for a person’s health and self-esteem. Speak up and don’t be afraid to ask for help.
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2023-10-08 05:35:23
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