Jakarta, CNN Indonesia –
Sexual deviant behavior ‘jarik wrap’ allegedly carried out by a man named Gilang attract the attention of many parties. The victims began speaking through social media and telling the perpetrators of sexual storage.
One victim stated that Gilang carried out his action under the pretext of researching a final project. Seeing this phenomenon, parents should be vigilant if their children become victims. Because it is reported that the average victim is still in school or is still in college.
Psychologist Mira Amir reminded parents not to strike children with a variety of advice as well as lectures when discussing this. He stressed communication with children should often be done to dig up what information is done by children throughout the day.
“I often talk to parents so that communication is not only one way. They say, ‘Yes, I’m communicating’, what is the communication? ‘You are like this, like that’, it’s not parenting communication expected, “said Mira when contacted by telephone, Friday (7/31).
Mira suggested parents should invite children to dialogue and try to use diction-diction that does not seem to give distance, for example reducing the use of the word ‘you’ and trying to use the word ‘we’.
Position the child as an equal person, knowing who is being talked about.
“Like chatting, dialogue, ‘Mama read this, you guys listen nope? ‘ Try asking the children what they know, so parents get the children to talk. Listen to the child, ‘Then what?’, ‘How can that be?’, “Mira said, giving an example.
On the other hand, sexual predatory crime behavior began to spread on social media. The perpetrators find their victims via getting acquainted on social media. Parents inevitably have to monitor the use of their children’s gadgets. This should be done early on.
Primary school age children, for example, apply the rules for using gadgets on certain days such as weekends. It’s best to avoid using language that reflects’ prohibited ‘, prohibited’, ‘not allowed’.
Mira gave examples of children may use gadgets but only Saturday-Sunday. Here parents must be firm not to melt quickly when children whine.
“When we give a time limit, parents are required to provide alternative activities to the child. Acting as parent, invite children to play, make this and that, so children do not the mind of holding a gadget“he added.
Be critical
In addition to parents, Mira Amir also reminded young people to be critical of everyone, including strangers. This is mainly, according to Mira, in responding to people’s invitations, sometimes there is a premise or assumption that good intentions will inevitably be good.
“Maybe these younger siblings have the intention to help, help with the thesis. But we have to be critical, the process is correct or not. (For example) There is a school assignment, ‘please please Like, subscribe to the Youtube channel’, click first. Eligible for me to share (share) , “said Mira.
He said it was better to think before responding. In the case of research which is used as a mode, according to Mira, it should be asked again in more detail about the research.
On the other hand, Mira also reminded victims of loneliness type, or difficulty exchanging ideas, vulnerable to being trapped in sex predators.
When something is strange, he suggests discussing it before making a decision whether or not to help.
“This is a sexual crime, I think these brothers and sisters already know about the body, the privacy of the body, the body is not to be used as an object let alone be consumed.”
“Maybe they have got it but nothing reminds or is not internalized. This case reminds us that sexual education must be added,” he said.
(els / mik)
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