My mother still can’t understand why I don’t let her see my grandson or even into my apartment. She is indignant, offended, and says that I am moving away from her.
But I don’t understand how a sixty-year-old person doesn’t realize that I’m just tired of constantly treating the child after the arrival of my grandmother, who doesn’t care about her health and, accordingly, the health of her grandson.
In general, my mother always had a disregard for her health. Fever, cough, runny nose – she still went to work.
Then it may have been justified, after all, she raised me alone. But these are different times, and mom still can’t adjust.
I remember how my mother crawled home in the evening, and she had a high fever. Mom took the pills, went to bed, and in the morning went to work again.
Due to the fact that my mother was always under-treated or even suffered from illness on her feet, my health also suffered. I, too, always walked around with snot and almost immediately fell ill.
It seems to me that all the doctors at the hospital knew me, because I saw them every month. The pediatrician had already had explanatory conversations with my mother, but all he achieved was that she did not send me to school when I was sick.
But there was little point in this. As soon as I recover, my mother will again catch something from the old yeast and start all over again. It seems to me that it was cheaper for her to sit on sick leave than to constantly spend money on medicine.
Now I’m already so smart and experienced, but as a child you don’t understand all this. It was only as I grew up that I began to notice and understand what was what.
Now I am a mother myself, my child is two years old. The mother loves her grandson, but I’m already tired of constantly treating him. He doesn’t go to kindergarten yet, but he gets sick regularly.
More precisely, he was sick until I forbade my mother to come to us in her usual semi-sick state. Cough? Snot in three streams? Did you have a fever the other day? Sorry, we are not accepting today.
– Why are you turning everything into a huge problem? I feel fine! – Mom is indignant.
I know how normal she feels. She can walk, which means she is healthy. But the fact that she’s spreading bacilli is another matter, I’m inventing something.
I tried to communicate with her in a good way. She asked me to complete my treatment and only then come and visit my grandson. If only my mother would listen to me. She knows everything better than anyone.
So she comes to visit us. Everything seems to be fine at first glance. He fusses with the child, kisses him, hugs him, and two days later the child has a fever and all the signs of the flu.
I call my mother, and she herself is sick. She says that she has had a fever for four days, but now something has really taken her down. That is, she already came to us with a fever.
“Don’t make things up, I felt fine, but everyone has a fever from time to time, you just don’t pay attention,” my mother brushes off my claims.
After that, I decided that it was enough to risk the child’s health. Since mom doesn’t understand well, we’ll act differently.
Now, if I hear a cough, a runny nose, or see that my mother looks somehow unhealthy, then she will not come into my apartment. A couple of times I forced her to take her temperature when my mother started arguing with me.
– Yes, I just came from the street, out of breath, and the thermometer shows elevated! What have you come up with? – Mom is indignant.
I haven’t come up with anything for myself, I want my child not to have health problems after communicating with his beloved grandmother.
And if the grandmother herself does not understand that when she is sick there is no need to visit her grandson, then I will try to protect the child from such communication.
It seems to me that in this situation my position is more balanced and sensible, but, unfortunately, this will never reach my mother.
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2024-01-03 18:01:00
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