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Intisari-Online.com – Some of these sentences may often be said arbitrarily by parents in Indonesia to their children.
Sounding casual and not appearing can be a problem.
But as it turns out, some of these sentences can be more dangerous than we think.
These sentences can even affect the future children.
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Launch Bright Side, psychologists recommend that some of these sentences parents omitted from their daily speech to children.
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1. Don’t let mama throw away your toys, okay!
This threat is often spoken by parents when children are too engrossed in their toys to do what they are told to do.
For example, they continue to play when it is time to eat, bathe, or study.
When that happens, some parents usually use this threatening sentence, but don’t actually do it when the child disobeys.
Apparently, this can actually make them more daring to fight.
Children will easily find out this ‘threat’ trick and will stop taking it seriously.
2. How many times do you have to be told?
Every parent has probably used this exclamation in their speech.
However, these questions are usually completely meaningless.
In fact, adults only complain but children do not understand and close their ears to it.
So, instead of expressing this sentence, parents must be more patient to explain in other ways so that children understand better.
3. Smart boy…
Praise is often considered good for children.
But the truth is, psychologists believe that praising children can be very damaging, especially if you praise a child for their good qualities or grades.
Ideally, you should praise your child for working hard.
If children are praised for their intelligence or talent, they may lose interest in studying and working.
4. My child accidentally…
This is often said by parents when children get into trouble with other children.
Every parent may always want to protect their children, but that does not mean always avoid them from responsibility.
Children can be naughty. They can experience strong negative emotions and make them act badly.
Rather than continue to protect their mistakes, parents should help children accept their negative feelings and learn to control them.
5. How do we pay all these bills?
This discussion is often carried out by parents when they face many of life’s needs, including the needs of their children.
For example, when many school activities cost money.
Discussing with your partner is important, but avoid saying this one sentence in front of the children.
Parents should not burden their children with financial problems.
They don’t need to know about it. They can’t even help if they hear it.
At the same time, it would be very difficult for them to shake off the anxiety if they heard about it.
6. Don’t cry, it’s no big deal…
When children cry in public, this phrase is often used to calm them down.
If your child hears this sentence, they may start to feel ashamed of their emotions and affect them in the future.
Even if something doesn’t seem like a big deal to an adult, your child may think differently.
7. Don’t be like a child!
When parents are tired of dealing with their children’s behavior, these words can come out of their mouths.
As it turns out, this can be one of the worst phrases an adult can say to their child.
In this way, parents ignore their child’s feelings, which can result in later children being reluctant to share emotions with them.
If a child is annoying, you better ask what they are feeling and why they feel that way, than to say this with this sentence.
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