Original title: Ou Lijuan talks about “Dream of Red Mansions” | The sooner you know the truth hidden 200 years ago, the better
“How you read “A Dream of Red Mansions” is how you behave.”
I didn’t understand this until today.
20 years oldWhen I first entered the workplace, I envied Daiyu’s frankness and arrogance.
Whatever he does, he always does it straight and straightforward. But the further up you go, the more difficult it becomes to approach.
30 years oldAfter getting married and having children, and looking very much like Baochai, she finally ended up living a life that she hated.
The edges and corners have been smoothed away by society, and we have learned about the smoothness of human relationships, but life has also become numb and boring.
40 years oldfinally started to pay attention to myself.
But I found that at this age, living around my husband and children for more than ten years has killed me.
Just then, I accidentally heard her voice:
DaiyuHer frankness depends on the occasion, and her true temperament cannot be learned from ordinary people like us;
BaochaiNot a scheming girl. Her harmony is actually the understanding that comes from seeing through human nature.
As a woman, if you just imitate Lin Daiyu or Xue Baochai, you will not be happy.
Two simple sentences captured my heart.
From then on, entering her red building was as deep as the sea.
I listened to it once, twice and three times, but it was not enough.
It turns out that this is the true face of the woman in the Red Mansion.
It turns out that many of my previous understandings were actually “misunderstandings.”
I finally understood that people have thousands of faces and their hearts have a thousand changes.
No wonder,There is a saying going viral in the celebrity circle: Men should read Jiang Xun, and women should read Ou Lijuan.
After meeting Ou Lijuan, I truly understood the great wisdom in Dream of Red Mansions.
She is Cao Xueqin’s close friend:
The Dream of Red Mansions she told has become the book of answers for 3 million people
She is Ou Lijuan.
Anyone who sees her will be surprised by her youthful appearance.
I am over 50, but there is still no sign of time.
I think it must be because she was nourished by Chinese classical literature that she has an elegant face that is completely different from this anxious era.
Ou Lijuan, who has taught in the Chinese Department of National Taiwan University for more than 20 years, is a well-deserved “Goddess of the Red Chamber”.
An open course on “Dream of Red Mansions” was taught for the first time, and the number of people exceeded 3 million!
In one fell swoop, he won the “Outstanding Teaching Fellow Award” from the Global Open Course Alliance.
From professors and students to vegetable sellers, countless people fell madly in love with her!
Wang Bo, Vice President of Peking University, once said bluntly: I have never met Ou Lijuan, but through her “Dream of Red Mansions”, I have become a fan of hers.
Professor Zheng Jixiong of the Education University of Hong Kong even praised her as “Cao Xueqin’s close friend”.
Indeed, no one understands the women in “A Dream of Red Mansions” better than her.
▲Ou Lijuan was invited by Peking University to give a special lecture on “Dream of Red Mansions”
I still remember that at the book signing event, an elder sister was very excited:
After listening to what you said about The Red Chamber, I realized that my previous understanding of Twelve Hairpins was actually wrong!
You really opened a door for me. As a stay-at-home housewife, I finally feel connected to society again.
This is also the inner voice of most readers.
Especially for mothers, Ou Lijuan’s interpretation of “A Dream of Red Mansions” has simply become their book of answers.
Emotional relationships, parent-child education, family of origin…she has the right answers to all the problems you encounter.
In the hearts of the audience: If you don’t read Ou Lijuan in Red Mansions, reading it a thousand times will be in vain!
However, from Ou Lijuan’s own point of view, she just wants to give you a more realistic “Dream of Red Mansions”.
She clarified the “misreading” of “A Dream of Red Mansions”
How you read “A Dream of Red Mansions” is how you behave
She said that we have too many misunderstandings about “Dream of Red Mansions”.
Including herself, in her early years, she couldn’t help but like to use her own three views to guess the ancients more than two hundred years ago. If you are like yourself, you will like it; if you are not like yourself, you will hate it.
This is not surprising.
Cao Xueqin, who was born into a noble family, wrote “A Dream of Red Mansions” 200 years ago. The story of the aristocrats in Dream of Red Mansions is separated from us by a cultural gap of more than 2,000 years.
We forget that their values and lifestyle are completely different from ours!
In order to see what ordinary readers have not seen, Dr. Ou Lijuan has devoted herself to studying Red Mansions since her graduation. This dream lasted for 21 years.
first 10 years She used poetry as a clue to understand the rules of a woman’s good fortune in the Grand View Garden!
second 10 years She started from the aristocratic culture of the Jia family and delved deeply into the inner drama of Twelve Hairpins. She personally went to the royal gardens to find the hidden meaning behind the Grand View Garden.
From Chinese classical poetry to Zhiyanzhai; from aristocratic etiquette to garden flowers and birds; from Eastern Confucianism, Buddhism and Taoism to Western Freud…
She weaved a big net, connected thousands of neglected details, and wrote a 3 million-word masterpiece of Red Mansions, which is magnificent.
In her words, the true nature of Twelve Hairpins’ humanity can always be exposed sharply:
Is Daiyu’s frankness true?
——No, she is almost similar to Xue Baochai.
We never cared that Daiyu’s frankness was in private. In fact, she is a very well-behaved person in formal situations.
Moreover, we often defended Daiyu, saying that she was bullied when she first came to Jia’s house and was not allowed to enter the main entrance. But in fact, it’s not. The etiquette and rules of the aristocratic society at that time were like this. Even Jia Mu would not take the main entrance.
We simply ignore a lot of the truth and only see what we want to see. Your sympathy can easily be misplaced.
Is Xue Baochai really very wealthy?
——No, she is a true gentleman in Mr. Cao’s heart.
With everyone in mind, everything you say and do is appropriate. He not only actively participates in the world and fulfills one’s social responsibilities, but also has a transcendental feeling and does not indulge in the joys and sorrows of the world.
But why can’t we see such beautiful qualities, but why do we always say that Baochai is scheming?
If you truly face the weakness in your heart, you will find that we are used to projecting ourselves on Daiyu, so we regard Baochai as an imaginary enemy.
Wrong stereotypes are like contagious diseases that make people’s minds unhealthy. If we stay at the most superficial level, you can only understand this kind of person from this angle, and you have not broadened your horizons.
So Ou Lijuan often says, “How you read “Dream of Red Mansions” is how you behave.”
Go beyond it, the world is so big. You will be pleasantly surprised. When you have an objective and comprehensive perspective, every person you meet will be a kind of nourishment for your soul——
Tan Chun “Everything must be said to others”.
He is very open-minded in his behavior and actions. There is nothing to explain and nothing that cannot be said to others.
Because she was a concubine, when she was ignored by the whole world, she did not have the air of poverty and resentment, but lived comfortably alone. Later, when he got a position of power, he could manage Jia’s family, but he kept himself clean so as not to be corrupted by his position.
And when you pass through the pain and joy of everyone, you can truly understand the balance between giving and gaining——
The alluring imperial concubine Jia Yuanchun.
On the surface, there is glory and wealth, but secretly there is suffering. Be careful and careful every step of the way, and don’t dare to say the wrong thing.
The Jia family spent huge sums of money to build the Grand View Garden for Yuanchun to visit their relatives. It seemed very glorious, but they gained face, lost dignity, and put themselves in financial crisis, but they dared not say anything.
The truth in the world is so complicated. You think that person is married to a good family, has a car and a house, that person’s family has made a fortune through business, and has no worries about food and clothing. Perhaps they have also experienced hardships at the same time, and no one needs to envy the other.
The prosperity and enthusiasm only lasted a moment.
On the podium, Ou Lijuan’s class can last forty or fifty minutes, but she doesn’t say a word of nonsense. She is calm, objective and passionate.It takes you to keep moving forward, constantly transcending limited cognition, and seeing a different “Dream of Red Mansions”.
In life, she has seen through the rise and fall of Red Mansions, as if she has become a person in the dream of Red Mansions.
She doesn’t buy trendy items, as long as they are enough. Because she knew very well that although the objects in Jia’s mansion were exquisite, they were all half-old! Cherish one point, and there will be a point of nobility.
She never judges others and rarely gets into arguments. Because she holds many people in her heart, she can see more and accommodate more.
Can a person read “A Dream of Red Mansions”?
Live a different life
Everyone loves to read “A Dream of Red Mansions”. If you ask me, why do you have to listen to Ou Lijuan telling “A Dream of Red Mansions”?
My answer is——
Looking at Red Mansions from a female perspective, no one understands you better than her.
