“I won’t go below seventy. I know I still look good, but I still feel the physical deterioration. It must feel a bit equal. And apart from the physical: within my generation we talk about the same things. Younger men also have younger wives and children, which is a connecting factor. Above the age of eighty, I don’t really know what is still possible.
There is a choice for women on the Second Love dating site, but men have a significantly more difficult time. Anyway, I also have to be patient, because I want it to be open and honest on both sides. Secret stuff, I’m not going to get into that. After sex for a night I still feel a bit dirty. I want openness, respect for the home front and that means that I sometimes have to wait a year. Well, that’s just how it is.”
“My husband and I have been together for forty years, but I have lived alone most of my life. After my first marriage, I stayed alone with the children and we saw each other on the weekends. When they were out, I moved out. with him. But our lives were so different that I bought an apartment in the city for myself again. I still worked a lot and my life as a mother was so busy and stressful for someone who consciously does not have children, that we were better off We each had our own place.”
Third second relationship
“Since my retirement I have moved back in with him, and it is good. It has grown so much, but I would never choose to do that again. I love being in my own energy every now and then, and he We regularly take short trips on our own. We do long trips together, and we often go out together in the camper.
But we give each other space, in everything. We have an open relationship, because I have a greater need for sexuality. That started years ago, when I started living alone again. I have now started my third second relationship. The previous two both lasted about ten years. They also both had a wife who knew with whom their husband occasionally spent a night away. It is precisely this openness that can create a fulfilling connection.”
“Not that you share all the details at home, by the way. That’s not necessary at all. Children generally don’t want to know anything about it, especially not from older parents. I think that’s a shame, because this part of life also continues.
Friends can also react disapprovingly, which I sometimes find difficult. It feels like a part of my life that is important to me is in the shadows. As if that shouldn’t exist. I want to keep this part of my life. The physical contact and also the orgasms. It’s painful that some people don’t want to understand that.”
Long encounters
“I have long meetings with my lover, at least 24 hours, sometimes two nights. I make a date, for example we go to the theater and to a hotel. For one day everything is in my hands, I like that. That has no effect to do with control, but especially with the pleasure of being able to decide for yourself.
Once a month is enough. It is no longer three orgasms a night, but it is a nice time together. Sometimes we don’t meet for three months, when life gets in the way.”
“Family always comes first. I don’t text when my grandchildren are here, even if I’m in love. Yes, those feelings are allowed. I don’t lose myself in it, because my family is always in the foreground and that is the same with the other.”
Still sexually active
“It is precisely because of that clarity that our contact nourishes each other. From that freedom, a bond can feel intense and intimate. I am happy that my husband understands this and allows me this, because I have felt unfaithful for a long time. It was also quite a while. swallow, if he then came in and said he was in love.
But I was also happy for him. Enjoy, I’ll be fine. We’ve never held each other like that. Now he is no longer sexually active and I am. As long as I can do this, I want to keep this. Complete.”
The name Eleanor is a fictitious name. Her real name is known to the editors.
Wanted: Love Lessons
For the Love Lessons section on RTL News Lifestyle we are looking for beautiful, vulnerable, funny, inspiring and honest love lessons. An insight, a moment of reflection. Preferably with your hand in your own bosom. In the end, did you turn out to be the one with a fear of commitment? Should you never have emigrated for love or did a blended family prove to be an illusion after all? Journalist Hanneke Mijnster would like to ask you all about it. You can tell anonymously. Email to: [email protected].
2023-10-04 18:29:48
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