Navigating Romance with a Co-Worker: The Do’s and Don’ts

We spend a large part of our weeks there, so the office can become a meeting place. Indeed, according to one survey, approximately 17.5% of couples meet at work, surpassing social media and online dating combined. However, if we happen to have a crush on a colleague, many factors can slow us down from going further and beyond the flirting stage.

Establishing and maintaining a romantic relationship with a work colleague requires meticulous management to prevent any outbursts. This is the key to keeping work and personal lives separate, thereby preserving a healthy and fulfilling work environment.

Hanging out with a work colleague: things to do

• Know the company policy: Before you enter into a relationship with a co-worker, familiarize yourself with the company policy regarding employee relationships. Some companies have specific guidelines on this.
• Establish ground rules: Open communication is crucial. Discuss your expectations and the limits that should not be crossed.
• Consider the Good and the Bad: Be aware of the pros and cons of a relationship with a co-worker. In particular, think about how to manage a possible separation and how this could impact your work.
• Prioritize work: Never let the relationship compromise your career. your work must remain at the center of your concerns, the romantic relationship being a part of your life, but not its pivot.
• Discretion and courtesy towards colleagues: avoid putting your relationship forward within the office. Be discreet and respectful towards your other colleagues, so as not to create discomfort.

What to avoid

• Attempting to keep the relationship a secret: Ignoring the relationship or trying to hide it can lead to harmful rumors and speculation. Be transparent and open, in accordance with company policies.
• Skip the steps: take the time to build the relationship. Don’t rush things out of emotion. Move forward in a measured manner.
• Let the relationship affect work and vice versa: It is essential to maintain a clear boundary between work and romantic relationship.
• Maintaining the relationship for fear of the impact on your career: If the relationship is not working and separation is inevitable, do not hang on for fear of the consequences on your job. Mental health and personal well-being should always come first.