Recently a misfortune happened in my life. My boyfriend had an accident. Maxim received a severe spinal injury and is now bedridden. The first time was quite difficult – he could not turn his head on his own, he screamed from unbearable pain.
One day, from an injection of painkiller, his breathing became impaired, and he literally almost died in front of my eyes.
Two months ago he was discharged from the hospital. Maxim’s parents bought a special bed to move him around. At first, I helped his mother: spoon-fed him, dried him, washed his hair and much more. Maxim still could not move – his arms and legs were inactive. Strong analgesics gave him hallucinations.
Then, unexpectedly, his condition improved sharply: he began to move his arms and legs, and turn his head. And after they stopped injecting painkillers, Maxim was even able to sit up in bed on his own.
However, as his condition improved, strong aggression towards me arose. He doesn’t want me to come. The other day he even poured soup on me when I was just putting it on the table. He yells at me very much for any reason. For example, he fell asleep with his cell phone on his stomach. I put the phone on the table so it wouldn’t fall and left the room myself. I went to talk to his mother, and then we heard on the nanny radio that he was calling us. Maxim began to very emotionally express his claims to me for the action he had committed.
– This is my property. “You had no right to take my phone into your hands,” Maxim said displeasedly.
I know for sure that he doesn’t correspond with anyone, because… Because of the pills, his vision is temporarily impaired. He can see, but not read.
His mom thinks he’s embarrassed of me. Like, I’m healthy, and he’s bedridden. I tried to talk to Maxim, I said that I would love him anyway. But he only flew into a rage at these words.
I don’t understand his behavior. As soon as he regained his sanity, I stopped helping him bathe him, treat his bedsores, and so on. His mother decided so because she did not want to infringe on Maxim’s male pride. In fact, he has no one to talk to now. I’m the only person who lives outside his house. Even over the phone, his comrades do not want to support Maxim.
Now he can roll over on his own. Maxim has also completely mastered the control panel for his bed. Therefore, in many ways he is independent of us. I want to be close, because I love Maxim. For me it remains the same. I don’t consider him disabled and I always convince him that he will definitely get back on his feet. But now he can’t even see me. Is our relationship over? After all, I am ready to live my whole life with him, regardless of his physical condition. His words hurt me…
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2023-10-12 20:20:51
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