Nadia Bouhanad: Psychology took me to writing – Zahrat Alkhaleej Zahrat Al Khaleej

“The most wonderful women are those who combine strength and tenderness together in their personalities.” With this phrase, Dr. Nadia Bouhannad began her conversation with “Zahrat Al Khaleej,” stressing that next to every free man is a free woman. She says: “My father, and the house in which I grew up, taught me how to ask questions and how to manage time. I later learned from my studies, work, reading, and my mother the true meaning of setting my priorities, and to always start from myself, which constitutes the key to my true success in a circle.” Work and life, knowing who I am, what I want, and what my priorities are, all of this was opened up to me by travel, study, and people’s stories.”

She is a psychological consultant, and holds a doctorate in educational psychology from the University of Arizona. She has experience in field work, by following psychological and behavioral cases and problems for more than 20 years. She has experience in applying standards, and her work has resulted in two books: “Karma” and “Karma.” “Raghbat”, which won many awards… Regarding the details of the experience, “Zahrat Al Khaleej” had this interview:

First of all, tell us about Women’s Club, and what took you to psychology?

Your question took me to poetry: Who am I, from Nadia Bouhannad? Should I say: “This is the question of others, and there is no answer to it. No one has directed me to me. I am the guide to me.” The human being cannot be summed up with a word, a face, or a condition. Because it is multiple, “I multiplied to see,” sometimes it is the face of a child, the face of a mature wise woman, and perhaps my study of psychology has made me know more about the questions of life, existence, and changing circumstances. Philosophy confirms that knowing the world, and everything that surrounds us, begins with knowing the “I” (the self). ). As for psychology, I learned its first foundations in school from the psychology and philosophy teacher, Ms. Nora, and at that time I was attracted to topics related to memory, forgetting, feeling, and the subconscious. After that, I read many philosophy books, by the likes of Nietzsche, Spinoza, Albert Camus, Ibn Khaldun, and Ibn Rushd. Of course, I loved this subject very much, especially since all sciences have their own philosophy, architecture, economics, society, politics, and art. Then it happened that I studied in America, studying educational philosophy, which opened another new horizon for me.

How did the first house (your house) affect the formation of your personality?

My family consists of seven children, I am the eldest. In this house, I learned the meaning of love, the meaning of emotional balance, which greatly contributed to the formation of my personality. My father, may God have mercy on him, used to hold me responsible and give me household expenses since I was thirteen, and I remember how my mother used to feel that, and she would say to him: “Don’t Do you trust me?” My mother used to spend a lot, and she had nothing left until the end of the month, but I was able to carry out a financial planning process, and I succeeded, and to this day I still believe that it is very necessary for this to be in every family, and for children to learn it before adults. . I was stubborn at home, and my mother’s influence was reflected in the formation of an independent, informed, and cultured personality. Although she had only “primary” education, she appreciated the importance of science for girls and young men. The first house is embrace, well-being, rules, and instructions, away from repression and pressure, and I took this from my family in my home today.

Reading is the door to life

Reading and specialization open a real horizon in the formation of the creative “ego”… What are your real questions that prompted you to become the influential Nadia Bouhanad?

Reading, an act of life, pushes you to open the door to questions about yourself and the world. My readings in general revolved around philosophy and psychology, and I received books from Syria, especially international translated books, such as books by Freud and Nietzsche’s The Rebellious Man. This reading shaped my way of thinking, far from superficiality, and I remember that I wrote the first story while I was in “high school.” (Teenage). With time, travel and relationships came, and I had a session with a Lebanese friend. I was talking to her about the relationship between men and women. This opened the way for me, especially when I became a doctor, to listen to women’s suffering, and this later resulted in the book “Desires,” in which I relied on A simple analysis, in which I talked about my experience, and in the end I wrote about failed relationships for women, and I did not tell them to pay attention, as I left the topic open to them.

How did you make the narrative a message of love and tolerance, especially in your novel “Karma”?

I continue my talk about reading and writing; Because the relationship between them is intertwined and fruitful, this is how I wrote “Karma.” I do not consider it a novel, nor do I consider myself a writer. I write social psychological writings, and this extended to my articles, which I wrote in several platforms, including “Zahrat Al-Khaleej.”

“Emotional intelligence” is one of the important words today, in managing desires, ambition, and everything… Tell us about it, and how do we reach this balance in the midst of a world ablaze with influences?

“Emotional intelligence” is a modern theory, dating back to 1992, and its owner was Daniel Goleman, who studied it in America as a theory and application. In 2000, I returned to the Emirates, did a number of training courses, and participated in a number of television programs. Today, due to the presence of social media, the word “emotional intelligence” has become known, and people have become closer to this culture. “Emotional intelligence” is the umbrella that brings together personal and social intelligence, including: self-awareness and feelings, and a person’s ability to be aware of himself, and this is done by the mind. The one who has emotional intelligence takes a deep breath in cases of anger and emotion, that is, he knows how to direct and manage his anger and feelings. As for “social intelligence,” it is the skill of communicating with people, understanding, empathy, and finding justifications. To win people over. Let us reach balance, especially since everything is acquired, and we learn it through experience, culture, development, self-review, and evaluation as well, and this has a great impact in a world ablaze with influences.

Family courses

Today, we are faced with many concepts and challenges… How do we establish – in a climate of work and home – an environment of love, peace and ambition?

This starts with education, which is what I always tell those about to get married, as they must undergo family courses, as each of the two reflects a different culture from the other, even if they are of the same nationality. There are those who come from a broken family, or from a balanced family, and this is inevitably reflected in their relationship, and in the rest of the circles of life, such as: work, society, friendships, and everything. In order to overcome challenges, there must be balance in education and overcoming problems, that is, preparation for marriage. Through my work, I find that most of the problems of teenagers today are due to their lack of organization and guidance during childhood, so their rebellion is extreme.

How do we raise a child to know the value of time and use it creatively?

Parents are the model, and I mean fathers. Those who do not know the value of time reflect this on their children, and they remain on the phone all the time. Hence, distributing tasks to children, and organizing time for lunch, breakfast, dinner, bedtime, playtime, and reading, away from pressure, and even for prayer times, is necessary, as all of this establishes responsibility and commitment. And build a responsible personality.How do we arrange priorities…the most important and the most important?

It is difficult for many people to determine priorities. When I ask some women this question, there are those who say: “My husband, my children, my mother, my father, and work,” and there are those who say: “Me,” even once. Your concern for yourself, your health, and your desires are reflected in those around you. Hence, the priority is the person, whether man or woman, his health, and his emotional balance, and it should not be a postponed project.

Is there a danger in the spread of self-development experts on social networking sites?

Yes, there is danger, pretense, and transgression of professionalism and academic dimension, as they issue instructions without having a license approved by well-known bodies, which is why we find real chaos due to the spread of these pretenders.