I am a 63-year-old craftsman and after a stroke in 2009 I am doing brilliantly, my wife is 59. We met in Net in 2014 and married in 2016. Everything was good, including sexually, and for the first time in my life I really enjoyed it. I had been married before, then divorced. Out of joy for my wonderful dream woman with a truly dream figure, I had her breasts, which had been completely destroyed by a breast bungler during a reduction, redone. Wonderful, she regained her self-confidence. We were doing very well. My wife has a weakness for fashion and enchanting dresses. She knows how to style herself in simple dresses. Really pretty enough to bite into, like an apple. Then Corona came, we both had it in March 2020. It was bad. I have recovered very well, my wife too, but she has major problems with her abdomen. We are sitting at the lunch table, her wife runs up and is on the toilet for 10 minutes, I kiss her later and ask what was wrong. She has explosive diarrhea. Her abdomen is so irritated, it’s sometimes rock hard. Like concrete, her vagina burns and hurts. Everything is cramped. After Corona, we had sex a few more times. She was in such terrible pain that she cried. I don’t want to put her through any pain. She’s suffering enough already.
In 2023 I was diagnosed with prostate cancer. Then in the fall of 2023 I had a major operation that lasted 4 hours. The surgeon said he had to remove everything, including the nerves and all 40 lymph nodes. OK, now I have a 5mm cancerous lesion that we are irradiating for 34 days. I will be cured in November.
I’m currently doing pelvic floor exercises and wearing diapers. I’m really leaky. Without nerves, I have no erection. The doctor said: Viagra is no use, there’s a hard substance that you can put into your penis with a syringe but it’s not available. It doesn’t matter. I use a penis pump with a P-ring but it’s only semi-hard for a minute. Then it gets soft again. Forget it.
I asked my wife if she could help me with this. Well
After five minutes she ran away. She doesn’t want to do anything sexual with me anymore. She wouldn’t stroke me under any circumstances, wouldn’t massage me under any circumstances, and definitely wouldn’t give me a blow job. I’m only allowed to touch her the way you would touch a strange woman. At most on her hands or shoulders. If I ask if she will come into our big marital bed at the same time as me, she watches films until 3 a.m. I always go to bed alone. She specifically plans it so that we never meet in bed while we’re awake. She had a mishap recently: I was still awake and wanted to touch her briefly and stroke her body and just ask one question. She screams at me that she wants to sleep now. Taking off her clothes and revealing her dream figure is out of the question. Putting on wonderful nightwear, which she has in large quantities, is out of the question. Recently I touched her tenderly in the morning and she screamed at me that she still wanted to sleep. After another 30 minutes she jumped out of bed and I wanted to ask a quick question. Impossible.
I don’t see any way to change that. I still love her, she does everything great in the house and the big garden, she’s a good cook, she looks after the cats. What should I do? I don’t know what to do anymore. Sorry, regards, Experienced person
