Do you have questions? Daronne has the answers! (Yeah well, that’s not necessarily the best advice, but she does what she can, huh.) Welcome to this new episode of our hearted mail like no other.
Daronne is the queen of not-so-stupid advice dressed in a large dose of more or less subtle humor. Here she is back to save a reader!
The question for Daronne
Dear Daronne,
I have a problem that will seem ridiculous to you, I also find it ridiculous. My sister has had a favorite female name ever since she was little. She is a fairly well known name, she did not come up with anything. I’ve always liked this name a lot and it’s also a name my boyfriend loves.
In short, I am pregnant with a baby girl and, after much discussion, we decided to give this famous name to my baby. I thought my sister would be flattered, but she’s pissed off, especially since she’s trying to have a baby too. She tells me I’m stealing her name and she asks me to choose another one. This is totally ridiculous, right?
Alessandra
Daronne’s answer
Mon petit fish and chips,
It’s ridiculous? Perhaps. To tell the truth, I don’t know, because it doesn’t really matter. The result is: your sister is hurt and she feels betrayed. If we were only hurt by reasonable things, the world would be much less skinned alive, that’s for sure.
For the record, I myself gave my son my sister’s favorite name, which she kindly “gave me” under the pretext that her boyfriend found him super ugly anyway.
He is happy to have a Machine in the family and I, I told her that if she ever changed boyfriends, she might as well call her son as mine. This would make us two cousins Cars in the family, and it would be fun. In short.
I tell you frankly, instead of your sister, I would feel betrayed too by seeing myself stealing something super important to me, on which I thought I had put an indefinite option.
I grant you, it’s stupid, your sister is not pregnant and when she is, if that happens, nothing says nature will provide her with a Little Princess be so called. Nor does it say that, assuming it is provided with a hehe little girlit won’t take a 360 degree turn to finally pick a weird name out of thin air.
It has happened countless times before, although I won’t tell you about my life AGAIN to illustrate my point. All of which is to say that giving up the name of your dreams for ultra-potential sounds ridiculous, yes, and it hurts your glutes, yes.
But does that mean you shouldn’t just give up? I do not know. It depends. Well no, what do you want, it’s not an easy life.
What the law says and, above all, what Internet users think
Nothing, the law says nothing about it. It is perfectly legal to give your child your sister’s favorite name. If your sister took revenge for your life and you took her to court, she ” Yes, but sir, he STOLEN the name I meant for my son! it would not even constitute an extenuating circumstance.
Internet users are torn on the subject. Besides, you will be happy: many of them position themselves in your favor and believe that a name does not belong to anyone. In the worst case, you can have several cousins with the same name, you have to stop making a fuss for nothing.
But also, you will not be happy, because other Internet users believe, on the contrary, that too much has not been done. A name is not just a random sequence of letters (but it appears when you see a few) but a strong symbol. So there you have it, DON’T GIVE ANYONE ELSE’S NAME TO YOUR BABY, okay?
Sometimes you have to favor the people you love
In truth, it doesn’t matter if other people, myself or anyone else on the Internet, think this is a violation of the unspoken code of family ethics. Because, let’s be honest, if you go to your sister tomorrow and say: “ Damn! Here is our squabble: many Internet users believe that this name does not belong to you! “, I would be very surprised if she would answer you:” Well, that’s decided! Thanks the Internet for opening my eyes! “Regardless of each other’s opinions, your sister will remain bad.
The question to ask is therefore: does this name matter more than your relationship with your sister? Hey! You can answer yes, my previous letters show that adelphic relationships are far from always fulfilling.
If you eventually see your sister little and it doesn’t mean much to you, you may consider that the name is not worth giving up. Especially when you know how difficult it is to find a decent one. If you are close to your sister, you should know that this affair could damage the bond that unites you and likely distance you for a long time.
If an intermediate solution cannot be foreseen (to call the two children the same, to decline the spelling, to give a nickname), it is up to you to see if you are willing to give up this name for reasons that you find ridiculous. Just know that you will lose a name, but that in return you will save your relationship with your sister and at the same time show her the strength of your love (it’s beautiful). Moreover, it is true that you said awards on the name. Speaking of which. I’m just saying.
Okay, I’ll leave you, I have to referee my daughter’s football game,
The bisetta,
Daronne
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