My husband gets sick too often. Tired of his constant sick leave and fears for his life

When I first started dating Kostya, there were no doubts about his health. During the 2 years of communication, he got sick with Covid a couple of times.

As soon as we got married, Kostya was literally knocked down by colds and other ailments. He and I will soon celebrate one year of marriage. During this short period of time, my loved one managed to get sick with the flu, three times ARVI, and rotavirus. And the last time I caught whooping cough somewhere and suffered pneumonia. He spent almost six months on sick leave.

I don’t understand where the pain is. It seems that I live under the same roof with him, but at the same time I have never become infected from him. One exception is the flu. He picked it up from me. I spent 10 days on sick leave, and my husband spent a whole month. She practically pushed him out to work, otherwise he would have sat even further away.

I am terribly depressed by my husband’s health condition. As soon as the wind blows, the temperature immediately drops. And recently I completely stopped the practice of taking sick leave for any reason. Everyone in my husband’s family loves themselves very much. The mother-in-law and his aunt believe that at the first sign of a cold it is time to call the local doctor and go on sick leave. At the same time, they will not think about how much we will survive on.

Relations with Kostya spoiled his secrets. By chance I came across medical records. From them I learned that my loved one has a whole “bouquet” of chronic diseases: heart disease, hearing impairment, spinal hernia, anemia, irritable bowel syndrome, hypertension and a bunch of other things. She asked me to explain. He justified himself by saying that women did not want to get involved with him because of his health condition. Therefore, he began to hide the truth from everyone, fearing to be left without a mate.

I continue to be angry with my husband to this day. How could such serious things be hidden? I hardly married such a sick man. I’m afraid to give birth to him. After all, it is not clear what kind of offspring he will give.
I’m also not happy with the sick man next to me. His salary is high, but sick leave, expenses for medicine and taxes eat up his income. In fact, during our married life, he eats at my expense. I also don’t like the fact that my immunity is constantly suffering due to an infection carrier nearby.

Parents ask not to worry and wait. I asked my loved one to discuss his health status with the doctor. After all, a month has passed since he suffered from whooping cough, and he is still coughing heavily. The husband returned with a pack of vitamins and a satisfied face. He is not going to strengthen his immunity anymore.

Every day I began to wonder more and more: why do I need a sick man? I really doubt his recovery. It is only inconvenient to file for divorce a year after the wedding. I don’t know how to convince myself otherwise. Tired of living with a snot factory!

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