My girlfriend lives in another province, she is 15 years younger than me (I am 37). I met her through WhatsApp, in a group. We became friends and I asked her if she wanted to be my girlfriend. He answered yes. We have been in a relationship for 2 years and 7 months. I help her financially and have asked her to live together. At first she said no, but now she says yes. When she is in a good mood, she is a sweetheart, but if she has a bad temper she insults me and blocks me. I love her, but I hate her doing so. I’ve been blocked for days. What can I do with this relationship?
Faby,
Naranjal, Guayas province
Dear Faby, thank you for writing to The Specialist. Your relationship is a very dysfunctional relationship for the background that he comments. This will bring more problems between you, firstly because of the age difference between the two of you, I notice a lot of immaturity on the part of your young girlfriend.
I do not know why you help her financially, but this may be a reason to be in a romantic relationship (on her part), and thus remain tied to you through this bond, and not necessarily out of love.
I think you should do a reevaluation about what you want and expect.
Be honest with her and express your discomfort by the way he treats it. This is not the way to fix differences that occur in a relationship. My advice is to think carefully before continuing with it, you still have time to make a correct and wise decision.
Mg. Toyi Espín de Jácome,
Psychologist and family therapist.
Tel: 099-402-1070.
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