“Still, I went to the doctor just to be sure. She said it was probably nothing serious, but she also wanted to rule out the possibility that it was cancer and sent me to the hospital. An ultrasound was made there and while I was there, a doctor was called. He immediately sent me for a photo and then another doctor came. I noticed everything: this is not good.”
“I felt that well, a few days later a biopsy was taken with the result: a malignant tumor, breast cancer. A terrible time followed with chemo, radiation and surgery. I was sick of it. So sick that I could barely eat and vomited a lot. During that dark period I found out who my real friends are.
I am single and the person who was with me a lot to take care of me was my mother. My best friend also helped me wherever she could, truly my saving angel! She sometimes accompanied me to chemo or took me to the hospital for radiation treatments. I was also able to talk about my illness with her.”
“The funny thing is: there were so many friends who I had thought differently, but who didn’t say anything. Or sent a card and that was it. Really good friends who dropped out, I was very sad about that… On the other hand, I was also pleasantly surprised: a colleague who called me, asked what food I still liked and was going to cook it for me. She left it at the door without wanting anything in return.
I was as unstable as anything and cried a lot, also because I was sometimes so touched by how kind people can be to you. Friends who, for example, spoke up after every chemo treatment. I consciously distanced myself from a few friends because they disappointed me terribly. I don’t understand: we were friends, then you’re there for each other, right?
Now that I’m done with all the treatments and I’m doing well, I’m just hanging out with everyone again, but something has snapped. My cancer turned out to be the ultimate friend test. But I’ve gotten over it, I don’t feel like dealing with negativity.”
This Confession comes from Flair 48-2023. You can read more stories like this every week in Flair.
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