My husband and I live together very happily, but recently, because of “sex” our relationship has cooled a bit.
We have been married for 3 years and have a 1 year old son. My husband is 5 years younger than me, but despite the age gap, we still love and get together.
Although younger, my husband is a mature man, financially independent, and loves his wife and children very much.
Because I do business and often have to go on business trips, he took on the task of taking care of the children for me. He is also very good at cooking, often making delicious dishes for the whole family to eat. Not only that, he also cares a lot about my family members, making everyone praise me for being lucky to have such a good husband.
My husband and I quarreled over “sex” (Illustration)
Our life is very happy, except for “sex” after having children.
Husband has high needs in “sex”. When we were still in love, I was young so I could meet my husband’s needs, but after giving birth, I no longer had the strength to satisfy him. I also discussed it with my husband, he also understood me.
However, every time I couldn’t satisfy him, I blamed myself immensely. I also often exercise and take all kinds of hormone pills to improve the situation, but now in my 40s, things haven’t improved much.
Now, we only sleep together once a month but he’s never satisfied. Even though he tried to control his emotions and not reveal them, I still observantly knew. During those times, I also knew what to do and comforted him.
Recently, I accidentally discovered that he often texted and talked to his new female colleagues at his company. I looked at their information and saw that everyone was young and very beautiful.
I see him calling and texting them often, and some days he even drives them home after the company party. The text message had nothing beyond a colleague relationship, but I still thought a lot, thinking that he wanted the girls to be beautiful and youthful, not a 40-year-old woman like me.
Since knowing this, I haven’t dared to tell my husband because I’m afraid he’ll blame me for meddling in his personal matters. I know many women close their eyes and let their husbands go to relieve their problems elsewhere when they cannot satisfy their husbands sexually, but I cannot do that. In your opinion, what should I do in this situation?
