It would probably be ideal if we all walked around and constantly smiled, didn’t worry about anything, behaved adequately and balanced. But no! It was not and never will be. Emotions are what at least makes our lives brighter and richer. True, not all of our emotions are positive. The exact opposite is also enough. Yes, we have to admit, we are all imperfect, but we do not live boringly.
Yulia Sinyutina
Causal psychologist
Psychologists call our swings in emotions and mood “emotional swings.” The question arises: is such a “swing” good or bad?
I guess it all depends on how you “swing”. Imagine that we climb onto an ordinary swing in the yard and… don’t start swinging. Will it be fun and interesting for us? Hardly. Although some people might like it that way. But still, those who like to sit on a swing without moving are a minority. Most will want to move at least a little.
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To what extent does it make sense for us to move? Any parent who has children who adore swings will say: “The main thing is to swing so as not to fall off the swing.” In terms of emotional swings, the same rule applies: the main thing is not to fall off them.
What does it mean? And how to determine when it becomes dangerous to swing?
The first thing you need to understand is that swinging on any swing is fun – be it an emotional swing or an ordinary one from the playground. So the recommendation from some psychologists to “constantly control yourself and control yourself” is similar to the advice to eat only wholesome, healthy, but absolutely tasteless food. Well, what normal person can withstand this for long?!
On the other hand, the huge amplitude of emotions, especially when they change very quickly and dramatically, makes communication with us unpredictable and unpleasant for other people. This is exactly the case when there is a high risk of flying off this same swing. This won’t make anyone feel good. This means that we need to learn to swing in such a way as to maintain a certain balance.
I offer three tips for maintaining emotional balance. The rules are quite simple, but effective.
How to control your emotions
Tip 1: don’t push negative emotions inside yourself, don’t hold back
This does not mean that you need to scream and pour out streams of your indignation on the offender. You don’t have to do that. However, pushing negativity inside yourself, doing nothing about it and suppressing your emotions is very harmful. If you accumulate a lot of negative feelings, it will most likely end in a nervous breakdown or other illness. Is this what you want? Of course not!
Then let’s do it differently. If someone has offended you, and it is inconvenient or unnecessary to respond to him (for example, your boss has reprimanded you), we take a pause, as if we were taking a drink in our mouth, and then go to a secluded corner (either immediately or after work) and give a powerful vent emotions. They must be released so that they do not have time to poison your body.
Scream, cry, you can even beat the punching bag if it is nearby. Just please don’t injure yourself or break your things. This is, to say the least, irrational. Moreover, it will only be worse for you. Agree, it’s somehow unfair.
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Remember, you should definitely express your emotions so that there is no more negativity left inside. Then a little cold water, a smile, nose up and – forward to new victories and achievements!
Tip 2: don’t push positive emotions inside yourself, don’t hold back
There will be completely different comments here. In most cases, again if it is appropriate, do not wait – immediately spill your joy out. Do it sincerely, brightly and vigorously. Don’t be afraid that they will think something wrong about you. Experience powerfully all the happy moments of your life. If you are not used to doing this, practice. Believe me, this is only for the good.
Tip 3: Don’t skimp on yourself, especially on the things that bring you the greatest bliss
It’s not just about buying expensive things. Do you like ice cream? Buy yourself not the one that is cheaper, but the most delicious and delicious one. Savor every bite, enjoy.
The habit of allowing yourself the best, even in small things, greatly increases life satisfaction and automatically reduces the degree of accumulated irritation. This means that your emotional swing will not give you anxiety, but pleasure, and you will be able to maintain balance.
Try these three rules. I am sure that positive results will not take long to arrive.
2024-01-22 06:12:59
