Kim Seung-jin recalled his deceased father.
In the Channel A entertainment program ‘Oh Eun-young’s Gold Counseling Center’, which aired on the 27th, singer Kim Seung-jin appeared and recalled her childhood.
Kim Seung-jin, who grew up under a strict father, said, “He said that you have to do it your way to succeed and be number one. He took a beating at the slightest misstep. He was hit and ended up playing,” he said, shocking him by revealing, “There was a time when my mother collapsed to stop hitting the child.” Because of this, Seungjin Kim’s sister described his father as a ‘dictator’.
In response, Dr. Oh Eun-young said, “I agree with the name quite a bit. Even if other opinions are legitimate, they will not be accepted.” Kim Seung-jin said, “That’s why I don’t talk. I didn’t want to talk to my father.”
It is said that Kim Seung-jin’s father, who was a manager and producer, monitored all of his son’s broadcasts. Kim Seung-jin said, “I was worried that when I went on stage, the fans would be pointed out by his father, not the problem. He pointed out why he sings this way, why his expression is like this, and why his legs are not spread out beautifully. He had never heard a compliment. He was silent when I did well, and reprimanded me when I didn’t,” he recalled. “He wanted perfection from me.”
Channel A ‘Oh Eun-young’s Gold Counseling Center’ captureDr. Oh Eun-young, who heard this, said, “Before I became a singer, I saw things like getting up early in the morning to study at school. In my opinion, my father is really like a dictator. He says just do what I say and he will be successful. He wants his children to be immersed in success without experiencing failure.”
In particular, “Don’t you say that when you say you love me? Gaslighting is surprisingly common between parents and children. Of course, parents should give advice, but there is a difference between advice and gaslighting. Advice is for the sake of the other person, but gaslighting, which is psychological control, is for oneself.” Kim Seung-jin sympathized and confessed, “Because I’ve been like that since I was young, I still feel like committing a sin when I rest.”
Kim Seung-jin’s father, who passed away two years ago, is said to have left a letter to his son. Kim Seung-jin was surprised by Dr. Oh Eun-young’s story, “It is said that his father wrote a letter a year before he died.”
Through this letter, the father said, “You, who seemed to always be in my arms, have become an adult and I have grown old. Even now, when I think about it, I have never praised you. Why did you do that?” He expressed his sorry feelings to his son. He also expressed regret and sorry feelings as a father. He also conveyed words of comfort and encouragement to his struggling son, saying, “Don’t try too hard.”
As a strict father, his sincerity was intact, even the words of love that he could not express in words. Everyone in the cast, including Dr. Oh Eun-young, who was reading the letter, shed tears.
Kim Seung-jin said, “I think my father knew everything about my heart,” and said, “I think I know now, but now my father accepts my anger and I don’t think I can say anything, but he’s not here.”
(Seoul = News 1)
