CelebritiesLosing your baby is actually much worse than you can imagine. That writes singer Jessie J (33), who lost her baby during pregnancy last month, in a candid message on Instagram. “I have never felt pain, trauma or loneliness like now.”
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The British star was told almost two weeks ago that the baby’s heart was no longer beating. Although she was “overwhelmed” with grief and unable to control her emotions, she decided to continue her concert in Los Angeles as usual. “My soul needs it,” it sounded then.
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Wrong mentality
The 33-year-old singer, known for hits such as ‘Price Tag’ and ‘Nobody’s Perfect’, returns to that statement somewhat today. She claims to have been shot in her work mode at that time and to have acted accordingly. “The The show must go onmentality reacted before the human in me did,” writes Jessie, who was especially concerned about how she had to tell the audience why she was “absent” during the concert. “The truth is I should have just cried out loud in someone’s arms. But at that time I was alone. I hadn’t processed it yet. And I had no idea what was in store for me, not just emotionally, but physically after that show.”
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Jessie says she now really understands why people who have lost their babies feel the need and necessity to talk openly about a miscarriage. “What people think it is is in fact not a representation of what it really is at all. How can people show support if they have no idea? I have never felt pain, trauma or loneliness like now. This changed me forever,” she wrote to her more than 10.6 million followers on Instagram.
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Courage
The singer supports all people who have experienced the same. “I’m so sorry if you’ve ever experienced it alone or with a loving partner, whether it’s going through some stage of pregnancy. Losing your baby is one of the worst feelings in the world.”
Jessie says she feels the pain of others and would love to support them. “Because I know that this is now more necessary than a ‘stay strong’ message”. Whatever the singer tries to say with her message: “You may be broken. You can cry. You may be weak. You may be exhausted with the pain, the bleeding, and the grief, which barely has room to exist.” The British superstar concludes: “We know there will be sunshine, but we can’t avoid the rain.”
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