From the case of the young actress Ice Preechaya who was suffering from depression. Has posted a message bemoaning her family and loved ones that no one cares about her. to the point of not wanting to live in this world Therefore, this story became viral on social media. And many people have a question: When someone close to you is depressed How should we cope?
Understanding the symptoms of depressed patients
When someone close to you is depressed The first thing that we should do is to understand that the symptoms of this disease that are often found are emotional, whether it is a sad mood, depressed, discouraged, easily sensitive, crying easily for no reason, easily irritated, easily upset, easily saddened, easily worried. bored Loss of interest in activities you normally do I don’t want to do any activities. Don’t want to go anywhere.
Some depressed patients may become isolated. Feeling a loss of self-confidence, decreased concentration, and shortened memory, which may affect work performance. and tend to have negative thoughts more often, both towards themselves and others until affecting daily life Including relationships with people around you. Until having anorexia Eat less food But in some cases, you may be able to eat more than usual. have difficulty sleeping Waking up earlier than usual or staying awake all night, feeling worthless, hopeless, wanting to hurt yourself. I think about death often. don’t want to live These symptoms will occur for a long time, not less than 2 weeks in a row.
When someone close to you is depressed How should people around you behave?
In addition to understanding the symptoms of depression in order to understand the patient, Close people, whether family, lovers, relatives, close friends, should have the following methods of conduct.
Things you should do when someone close to you is depressed
1. Invite the patient to get up and do physical activity.
Whether it’s playing light sports, playing games, or doing art, it will reduce the chance of distracted thinking. And I’m depressed. Physical movement also helps release happy chemicals like endorphins.
2. Listen with intent Don’t push. and do not decide for you
That’s because patients with depression often have the idea that they are a burden to others. Therefore, allowing patients to talk and vent their feelings You need to let them feel that they are listened to and not pressured or judged. build trust and a comfortable atmosphere Allow the patient to fully express what he wants to say. Because sometimes he may have thoughts of wanting to harm himself or wanting to die, if those around him have the opportunity to listen. So that disasters can be prevented in a timely manner.
When someone close to you is depressed All we can do is listen calmly to what he wants to communicate and not make decisions for him. Image from iStock.
“Don’t do” things when someone close to you is depressed.
1. Do not send sick people to go to the temple to listen to Dhamma. or calm your mind
without being beside them Because the patient will immediately feel that they have no one to rely on. Or feel like you’re a nuisance. And the more you distance yourself This results in thoughts of not wanting to live.
2. Don’t pretend you didn’t hear. or not wanting to talk about it when the patient talks about wanting to die
Many people think that mentioning or discussing suicide with people with depression is harmful. It may be a tendency for the patient to want to do it. Or point out a burrow to a squirrel. But in reality, if the patient talks about wanting to die And then the people nearby turned against him. Or pretend not to care to make the patient stop thinking. Or saying things like “don’t think too much” or “don’t think crazy things” will make the patient feel much worse. that we don’t listen to his grievances I will never really understand him.
3. Don’t be pressured and rushed. If the patient’s symptoms still do not improve
Don’t say it or make them feel like you are. “When will I get better?” or “I’ll get better” because the patient will feel even more depressed and disappointed. If symptoms just start to improve These stresses will make your mind worse. And it might be worse than before.
10 forbidden words For depressed patients
When someone close to you is depressed What we often accidentally hurt the patient’s feelings are certain “words” that affect the patient’s emotions and behavior to make things worse than before. In particular, the following set of words that can be avoided should be avoided, such as:
From the point of view of ordinary people who do not have depression You may think that these words are nothing. But from the patient’s point of view Those were words that hurt him a lot. Because they are more emotionally fragile than other people. Therefore, people around you should be careful of words that may make the patient feel more guilty about himself than before. It is recommended to use words that express concern, understanding, and readiness to be there for you. It will make depressed patients feel better. and overcome difficulties
References: Paolo Hospital, Bangkok Mental Health Hospital (BMHH)
#close #depressed #handle
2024-02-20 11:30:00
