How Having an Adventurous Relationship with a Younger Lover Transformed Deborah’s Sex Life

Deborah (41) has a lover who is younger than her and with whom a relationship is absolutely out of the question. They enjoy each other for hours. “Especially now that I have met someone with whom it does not seem to last forever, making love is much more adventurous”

Fifteen years younger

“A year ago I met a man, fifteen years younger than me. It was immediately clear to both of us that we would never have a serious relationship and somehow this had a direct effect on the sex. In the years before, during my longer relationships, sex usually followed a similar pattern. The time involved, what we did, the build up to a climax, was all more or less fixed, almost like ingrained habits. My partners were usually leading.”

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More intimate

“And sex served a certain purpose: to make children, to settle an argument, to feel how the relationship was going. And especially now that I’ve met someone with whom it doesn’t seem like it will last forever, sex is much more adventurous. I don’t have a role, so I can take on any role I want. I am no longer also a partner, also a mother, I can just let myself go like a child. And that suddenly makes sex much more intimate. For example, this boy is curious. He asks what I like. And for the first time I dare to think about it without embarrassment: well, what do I actually like?

I discovered that I can give of myself much more than I thought. In other words: that sex can be infinitely playful. Sometimes I want to be passive, sometimes dominant. And it’s all possible. For example, I ask him to lie completely still and do nothing. Then I am the decider, I go on a journey of discovery through his body, and a little later we reverse the roles. Giving free rein to my fantasies, trying out everything, that’s new to me and gives me so much freedom. I am amazed at my own lack of inhibition now that there are no rules anymore.”

2024-01-10 06:03:36
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