After knowing each other for more than a year, I decided to get married. Our hometowns are only more than 30km apart, but during our relationship, I rarely went to his house to visit because we were both busy with work in the city.
When the two of them were about to get married, her husband’s parents ran errands for him to return home first. My husband’s family also said that after getting married, they would try to find a job for me to move closer to home and not in the city anymore. I also think that if I find a stable job in the countryside, I will have to return home to live with my husband’s parents because he is an only child.
The mother-in-law does not want her daughter-in-law to conceive on the wedding day. (Illustration)
Her husband’s family is well-off. His parents are both carpentry factory owners so they are quite busy. Every time their future daughter-in-law comes home to visit, they only stop by to eat a meal, talk briefly about a few stories, and then go back to the workshop.
Having loved each other for more than a year, the two decided to get married.
The wedding also went smoothly, his family was very grand. On the wedding day, my husband’s parents gave their daughter-in-law a lot of gold money, which made me look very cool to my maternal family.
On the wedding day, when greeting the guests and the husband’s parents, everyone jokingly congratulated the two of them on their wedding night to soon be able to cast the desired baby dragon. Everyone laughed, only the mother-in-law immediately said:
“Ugh, how can you cast a baby dragon on the wedding night? You have to cast it another day.”
Everyone was very surprised, not knowing why his mother said that. I asked quietly and she said she would tell me the reason later. At that time, everyone and I thought my mother-in-law was joking, so everyone said funny jokes.
On the wedding night, when the young couple was still excited, they heard a loud knock on the door.
I quickly opened the door and saw my mother-in-law. She gave her daughter-in-law a box of condoms and whispered:
“If you two are together tonight, remember to wear a condom for protection. I almost forgot.”
Still not understanding what was going on, she explained:
“I don’t mean anything, I just don’t think it’s a good idea to conceive on the wedding night. Because for the past few days, the two of them have been tired after preparing for the wedding, and their spirit and strength are not good.
Therefore, if you conceive on the wedding night, it will have a negative impact on your pregnancy. Mom doesn’t want her grandchild to be born unhealthy. Remember to follow that.”
Having said that, her mother-in-law quickly went downstairs. I held the condom she gave me in my hand and was surprised. When she told her husband, he told her that what she said was correct. Mom probably cares for this family’s lineage, so she’s so careful and attentive to details.
At what point should my husband and I decide when to have children, why is it my mother-in-law’s turn to manage it? (Illustration)
I didn’t think she meant it like that so I threw the box of condoms into a nearby trash can. It’s up to my husband and I to decide when to have children, so it’s my mother-in-law’s turn to take care of it.
She must be terrible, nitpicky and want to correct her daughter-in-law on the first day she set foot in her husband’s house, so she made up such a ridiculous story. Because I’ve never heard anyone say you shouldn’t conceive on your wedding night.
Should you conceive on your wedding night?
On the wedding night, the couple is often too tired after preparing for the wedding such as: Traveling a lot to invite friends and brothers; renovate the house, buy furniture…
At this time, the spirit and strength of both husband and wife were in a bad state and relatively tired. Therefore, if you conceive on the wedding night, it will have a negative impact on your pregnancy.
Tired on the wedding day
At the wedding party, to thank friends and relatives, both the bride and groom drank a lot of alcohol, even to excess; Or the journey to pick up the bride is too far, and many wedding rituals have to be performed… making both of you tired.
A tired body, plus drinking a lot of alcohol will be unfavorable factors for conception.
No experience yet
The wedding night is the first time the couple has sex, so they don’t have much experience. In particular, the wife is often slow to adapt to sex, and female hormones are secreted erratically.
In addition, when newlyweds, the frequency of sexual intercourse between couples is high, so the spirit is relatively tense, it is difficult to achieve climax and sperm quality decreases, resulting in poor quality conception.
Not yet adapted to life after marriage
Besides the above factors, when you first get married, your married life is just starting, there needs to be a process of adaptation and harmony. If you get pregnant right away, both husband and wife will not be well prepared psychologically. and also about life.
This will affect pregnancy care. Therefore, you need time to prepare before getting pregnant.
