Growing up and getting older doesn’t always happen without a hitch. Everyone has baggage and it can be very confronting as adults to admit the emotions, sadness and trauma that you experienced as a child. Yet this is the way to heal yourself. It is the way to reconnect with yourself.
The inner child lies within everyone and it represents your emotional life, emotions, patterns and reflexes. This already develops in the womb, we read on it NLP college. Your heart is the first organ to grow here and the first part of the brain to develop is the limbic system. This is where the amygdala, which you can think of as your internal ‘warning system’. Your amygdala teaches you when to fight, flee or freeze.
The emergence of inner child wounds
If you experience fears, pain or disappointments in the first six or seven years of your life, when you are still very vulnerable, they will stay with you for the rest of your life. Growing up is complicated and comes with certain beliefs that are stored in your system. If you have for years ignored is not loved, is bullied, rejected or humiliated, then you do not feel worthy. This affects your self-image and the way you deal with emotions and feelings for the rest of your life. From minor bullying to emotional unavailability of parents, neglect or (sexual) abuse, it hurts your soul and you will take it with you for the rest of your life.
Accept your inner child wounds
To heal yourself from inner child wounds, it is important to acknowledge them. If you want to be loving to yourself again, you will notice that you also receive more love from the world around you. It is important to accept your inner child, to see and acknowledge it.
Want be seen and heardThat actually didn’t happen. If you are struggling with major trauma, it is wise to seek professional help. Some things you can’t do alone. What you can do is compliment yourself every day, consciously feel emotions and reflect on them. Because only then can you establish healthy relationships with the people around you.
These are five common inner child wounds.
1. The wound of rejection
When you experience an inner child wound from rejection, you were looking for it as a child connection and connection, but you didn’t get that. You were often rejected by your parents, brothers, sisters or caregivers.
The wounds you experience as an adult are:
– Eagerly seeking confirmation and approval
– Fear of failure that makes you avoid things
– Pleasing people and selling yourself short
– Respond defensively to criticism
– Constantly comparing yourself
– Difficulty trusting others
2. The wound of abandonment
This wound develops through the absence of a reliable parent or caregiver from an early age. This is possible if one of the parents dies early, is emotionally absent or runs away from their duty of care.
The wounds you experience as an adult are:
– Fear of abandonment
– Fear of being rejected
– Finding it difficult to really connect
– Being very dependent on others
– Tolerating unhealthy relationships
3. The wound from neglect
If your parents could not meet your emotional needs, you will experience this type of wound. It is the absence of lovecare and security.
The wounds you experience as an adult are:
– Fear of being dependent on others
– Huge need to be independent
– Not being able to say ‘no’
– Putting your own well-being last
– Clinginess or fear in relationships
4. The wound of humiliation
This wound develops if your parents are always critical or if you are bullied and… humiliated is becoming.
The wounds you experience as an adult are:
– Yourself downgraden
– Feeling like you are always being judged
– Low self esteem
– Strong aversion to trying new things or taking risks
– Isolating yourself from social interactions
– Accept that you are being treated disrespectfully
5. The dignity wound
This wound arises when, as a child, you have the idea that you have to pretend to be a certain way (different) than you are.
The wounds you experience as an adult are:
– Setting extremely high standards for yourself
– The imposter syndrome
– Waving away compliments
– Need for external validation to feel good about yourself
– Overtime
– Finding it difficult to accept love and affection from others
This is the imposter syndrome (and here’s how to get rid of it)
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2024-01-24 18:00:33
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