I was with my boyfriend at a Halloween party thrown by his friends. There he met an old dance partner with whom he used to take courses. According to him, there was never anything between them. She came straight to me and asked if she could dance with my boyfriend. I said ok, but was very angry that he didn’t refuse on his own. He didn’t dance with her because I told him so.
Half a week later I noticed that he was acting strange on his cell phone and I secretly answered his cell phone. Then I saw that he wrote to her. The chat was archived and set to automatically delete messages. I was stunned and left him a message saying I knew about it. But I had to go straight to work. We argued over WhatsApp and he accused me of hiding it because otherwise I would get jealous, even though there was no reason and he wanted to get advice from her about mental stress because she seemed to know all about it. He even talked about breaking up when I really believed he wanted something from her. But he doesn’t want to tell me because I’m very close to him and he’s ashamed.
I wrote to many of my friends and his friends for advice. Everyone said that it wasn’t possible, that he did it secretly. But his friends said that my friend also told them about it and that it was a sign that he had nothing to hide.
In any case, he changed his code. There was a conversation, he showed me that he no longer writes to her. He said if I asked him, he would show me his chats, but not behind his back. A few days later I called a friend to see if he was actually training. He then changed his code again because I wanted control.
Now I’m looking for advice on how you assess the situation. Please refrain from giving advice such as breaking up.
