The feast of love can be a difficult ordeal for anyone going through a breakup. Rather than brooding, you can turn this cursed day into a constructive experience and kill two birds with one stone: get rid of memories of your ex and make money.
Leaving each other as we loved each other can be complicated. Especially since the longer a relationship lasts, the more the proofs of love can accumulate. In addition to the habits developed in common, something much more concrete may seem far too present post-breakup: gifts and other trinkets acquired together or offered.
More or less large, these memories can take up space in the wardrobe, the decoration, the library, and weigh on the bodies. But should we get rid of everything? Even, can we make cash on it? And above all, how?
There are no proofs of love, only things to sell on Vinted
In this matter, there are obviously several schools. Those who manage to separate things perfectly and stop at the fact that they are material goods, and not the relics of a more or less well past relationship. And those for whom it can be painful to fall back on that famous t-shirt, the sweatshirt that still carries her scent, or even a vase offered with flowers.
Depending on the items and how useful they have become in your daily life, maybea simple quarantine in your cellar or that of a friend can help you move on. Thoroughly washed to prevent mold and wrapped to prevent rats and cockroaches from churning around, things that would still arouse mixed emotions can stay out of your sight, out of your heart, while it recovers. .
The advantage of this technique is that if the relationship was very beautiful, you will be very happy to still have material memories of it once you have really moved on!
Benefits of reselling the embarrassing memories of your ex
In contrast, if the relationship was awful, it may help to get rid of said objects. And as long as you do, you might as well get a little sorrel out of it.
For this, several popular second-hand sites are available to you, such as Depop, Vestiaire Collective, or LeBonCoin. And of course, my favorite: Vinted (who better sponsor my existence, at this point).
Apart from flea market bargain hunters who may be in the habit of skimming LeBonCoin just for fun (the rest of the mortals go there rather in search of an object not necessarily identified but for a specific function, generally), Vinted has the advantage of attracting an audience that does not always know what it wants. And this, throughout Europe, and even beyond: 16 million users in France, and 45 million worldwide.
It is therefore a vast fair full of clothes, but also small decorative objects, books, CDs, DVDs, video games, and company. Everything that is easily posted, in short.
On Vinted, there is always a person who takes improbable objects
Since lots of people are window shopping on Vinted, you can easily sell improbable objects there. For example, I just bought a Catwoman vinyl jumpsuit to play it Zoë Kravitz to an Italian without daring to ask her what she could do with it; dozens of sixty centimeter peacock feathers to make a pretty bouquet for a German woman; or even a handful of vintage jewelry from the 1980s worthy of the Rihanna of 2022 from an Austrian.
In short, Vinted could take up this old Nokia slogan: “Connecting people”. But I propose rather, now that we are in 2022: Vinted, Erasmus is shaking. ».
Joking aside, in addition to all the good advice on selling well on Vinted, which obviously applies to getting rid of your ex’s business, special attention is paid to writing the product description and discussions with interested people.
The latter, clever, may want to know and ask you why you are selling. And this is where it gets complicated. If you mention that it’s a memory of your ex, chances are that the person is tougher in business.
Capitalize on heartbreak without getting scammed by Vinted rats
Conscious of the emotional dimension of the object, the snarkiest could take advantage of this to make you believe that you are selling too much because you would still be attached to it. And that they would do you a favor anyway by getting rid of it. Fallacious arguments if any!
This kind of innocuous little manipulation on Vinted even resembles, to a much lesser extent, gaslighting: cognitive diversion by which the situation is distorted or presented in another light, selectively omitted to make the victim doubt his perception and promote the abuser.
So do you have to lie in the face of gaslighters from Vinted? No, just be evasive. Do not bother in your description to say that it is a memory of an ex, or to invent a need to get rid of because of moving (again, the presumption of an urgent deadline could bring the Vinties the most commercial to want to obtain excessive reductions). Just don’t specify.
And if you are asked insistently, you can just say that you are simply sorting in your life and that there is no rush.
Even if it means having to get rid of embarrassing memories of her sex, you might as well capitalize on her heartache, just to combine the unpleasant with the useful. And happy Valentine’s Day!
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