It always makes people feel sad when a white-headed person sends a black-headed person. The father of a Taiwanese netizen was suddenly diagnosed with terminal lung cancer last year. After being admitted to the hospital, his condition worsened and he almost died several times, but he still survived. The victim said that her family was worried that her grandmother would not be able to accept the bad news, so they decided to hide the truth. However, during this period, her grandmother had visited her father many times. In addition, the New Year was approaching and the family was about to return to their hometown for the New Year. Netizens lamented that it was difficult to find a reasonable excuse to convince their grandmother. After learning about the incident, many netizens said that the grandmother may have already had suspicions, and urged the victim’s family to tell the grandmother the facts and not have any regrets.
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The netizen recently posted on the online discussion forum “Dcard” as “Dad has cancer and it’s hard to talk to grandma” published an article with the title, saying that his father was suddenly diagnosed with terminal lung cancer in November last year. He “never came out” after being admitted to the hospital. Now he has been admitted to the intensive care unit (ICU). Although he is conscious, he has undergone a tracheotomy and cannot speak. During this period, his condition took a turn for the worse, and he was pronounced dead several times, but he was still lucky enough to survive.
Worried grandmother couldn’t accept it and decided to hide the bad news
The sudden bad news made the family feel at a loss. After the incident, the victim’s family discussed with his uncle whether to truthfully inform his grandmother about his father’s condition. He was worried that his father would pass away suddenly and his grandmother might regret not seeing him for the last time. But the uncle thought that his father was the son of the family, but he was the first to die. He was worried that his grandmother would not be able to bear the pain of losing a son, so he decided to “not let her know yet, for fear that she would be too sad.”
Even so, the victim also admitted that her grandmother had asked them about her father’s condition some time ago because she had not contacted him for a long time. Although everyone agreed that he was working in other counties and cities, the victim thought that his grandmother might have suspected “something strange”, but recently, No more questions were asked, which made everyone breathe a sigh of relief.
The victim cannot find a reasonable excuse for being unable to return to his hometown during the Chinese New Year
However, the victim said that every New Year’s Eve, the family would go back to his hometown to celebrate the New Year. Now that the New Year is approaching, if the family does not go back, it will definitely arouse the grandmother’s suspicion. However, the father cannot speak or call to report that he is safe, and he cannot think of any reason to make the grandmother let go. Concerned, I posted a message asking netizens for help.
The victim also said helplessly that after their younger generation learned that their father was terminally ill, they were sad and worried every day. Therefore, they felt that concealing the truth was very cruel to their grandmother. They sighed: “After all, if you put yourself in her shoes, you won’t be able to see your child for the last time. I didn’t know that I was seriously ill, and I would really regret it.” I was helpless and knew that my grandmother would probably shed tears when she found out, “It just makes her worry more.”
I hope the final treatment will lead to a miracle
The victim also revealed that although his father’s condition was discovered too late and he was already in the final stage when he was diagnosed, he is currently receiving immunotherapy and has no obvious side effects yet. There may still be a glimmer of hope for a miracle:
“I hope Dad will have the opportunity to be taken off the respirator and talk to us again.”
Netizens urge to tell the truth: it will turn into regrets
After learning about the incident, many netizens shared their own experiences and urged the victim to tell his grandmother the truth about the incident, otherwise it may be a lifelong regret for both parties: “If both parties have a clear consciousness, let them see this possible end.” One side is necessary, otherwise it will be easy for both of us to regret it for the rest of our lives.” “Grandma has also lived for so many years, so she will have her own way of digesting this matter.” “Maybe dad also wants to see grandma for the last time. One day less is a good idea. one day”.
Some netizens believe that the victim’s family may have had clues earlier, pointing out that the grandmother actually knew it well when she was unable to contact her son: “I don’t ask anymore, because she already knows it. She has eaten more salt than you have eaten rice. When my mother left, everyone also hid my grandpa. He didn’t see my mother coming back during the Chinese New Year, so he kept asking, but he didn’t even make a call…”
The victim also responded to netizens afterwards, saying that when his father was in very bad condition earlier, his uncle had arranged for his mother-in-law to come to visit. However, his father’s condition improved later and he changed his mind. The family also tended to inform his grandmother, but after discussion, the uncle and others decided Concealing it, I believe they have their concerns. As the younger generation, they “can’t say anything”; and the uncle is the “main caregiver” of the grandmother. If they tell the grandmother without permission, she will shed tears every day, and it may be difficult to explain. He said he would try to communicate again and said frankly: “I don’t know how long I can keep it secret. It’s very tiring to lie like this.”
Lung cancer is the “number one killer” of cancer
According to data from the Cancer Foundation, lung cancer is the “number one killer” of the top ten cancers in Hong Kong. Its fatality rate is far higher than the second-ranked colorectal cancer. The incidence rate is higher among men. Most lung cancer patients in Hong Kong are smokers, and other common risk factors such as population aging, air pollution and thoracic radiation therapy will also increase the risk factors for lung cancer.
Men over 40 are at high risk
Lung cancer is the number one cancer killer in Hong Kong, and male patients over 40 years old are particularly at high risk. Leung Kwong-chuan, a specialist in clinical oncology in Hong Kong, once pointed out that lung cancer is divided into 4 stages. The process of cancer progression varies from person to person. Patients generally enter the next cancer stage within weeks to months:
- Stage 1: There is a small tumor in one lung and no lymphatic metastasis.
- Stage 2: There is a large tumor in one lung or hilar lymphatic metastasis
- Stage III: The tumor invades the mediastinal lymph and lymphoid tissue above the clavicle.
- Stage 4: The tumor spreads to both lungs, pleural fluid accumulates, or metastasizes to the liver, bones, brain and other organs
4 common causes of lung cancer
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