Since giving birth to my second child, I no longer desire sex and always try to avoid my husband’s closeness.
There are many reasons why I am in the current helpless situation. Below are the troubles I am facing in life.
After giving birth, my health became very weak. My family is still in difficulty, so eating well is not good, causing pain in my body and my mind is always stressed, thinking about ways to make money so I don’t have to depend on my husband anymore.
Many people think that I’m lucky, I just have to eat and stay home to take care of my children, but in reality it’s more tiring than going to work. My children were young, sick all the time, and had to go to the hospital every month. The baby cried all day, sometimes I was so tired holding the baby in my arms that I fell asleep without realizing it.
I know that refusing to forgive my husband is an easy thing to do to break up the family, but that’s the only way to reduce my physical and mental pain.
The older one is 2 years old, the younger one is under 1 year old, I can only work when the children sleep. When my children are awake, I have to hold and play with them. If I leave their mother, they will cry a lot and easily have a stuffy nose and difficulty breathing.
Yet every time I come home, my husband scolds my wife for being messy, refusing to clean the house, and waiting every day for him to come home before cooking. My husband’s unpleasant words always make me feel frustrated inside.
Every month, my husband gives me 13 million for living expenses, of which 5 million is for renting a room, electricity and water. I have to use the remaining money sparingly to make it to the end of the month. Yet, every day when he sees that there is no delicious food or wine on the tray, his husband gets frustrated and uncomfortable. Many days he even skips meals and goes out to eat delicious food.
It is the problems in the family that make me feel stressed, hate my husband and not want to have sex with him.
While I tried every way to limit the need to “return the cards”, my husband’s needs were very high, every day he asked his wife for sex.
To limit closeness to my husband, I often go to bed when I hear his regular wooden snores. I know that refusing to forgive my husband is an easy thing to do to break up the family, but that’s the only way to reduce my physical and mental pain.
In the long run, if I don’t meet my husband’s wishes, he will seek pleasure outside, which is what I am very afraid of. I don’t know how to solve the marital problem, everyone?
