If I scream, it’s… for joy!
If I threaten, it’s… my kisses!
The campaign Children’s Foundation against “ordinary educational violence” should soon appear on the billboards of major French cities.
Education is without physical or psychological violence! The new campaign of our foundation for a benevolent education, soon on display @JCDecaux_France and on @mpedia_fr !#I SEE #children #slap @AdrienTaquet pic.twitter.com/IjsbeeTs5k
– FondationPourEnfance (@Fond_Enfance) June 22, 2021
Parents’ mental burden
The law of July 10, 2019 Even if you put the frame – Parental authority is exercised without physical or psychological violence
-, spankings, pats, remonstrances and other annoyances have not disappeared. 70% of parents not knowing this law, and 80% admit to engaging in ordinary educational violence
, explains Gilles Vaquier de la Baume, founder of The Future Dad’s Workshop.
The consequences can be significant. A recent Canadian study found that the size of the prefrontal cortex and amygdala of adolescents was smaller when they had received a severe upbringing
.
I used to have principles, now I have children
, sweep away some parents, who do not see where the problem is shake
their child (ren) to reframe them. By imposing telework, and sometimes cohabitation with children / students, repeated confinements have obviously increased the mental load
parents.
The figure of authority
“Stress breeds attack, that’s classic. Hence the importance of anticipating to make yourself available to your children, advises Gilles Vaquier de la Baume. Do not hesitate to say: there, mom or dad is working, I give you plasticine or pencils to draw. And when I’m done, we can do an activity together. “
But real ordinary violence has older springs, which relate to the education that one has received, to the figure of authority that one believes that one must defend, as a matter of principle, also out of love: it is necessary set the rules well, enforce them …
“A broken link cannot be mended”
“Love and bond have nothing to do with it, corrects Gilles Vaquier de la Baume. Because we love our children, because we want to give them the best education, we sometimes go too far, at the risk of destroying the bond we have with them. However, a broken link cannot be repaired. “
For this, it is enough to remember, as the law of 2019 reminds us, that a child has not only duties (towards his parents, towards his teachers), but also of rights.
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