Jakarta, CNBC Indonesia – Children’s cognitive abilities are strongly influenced by the environment that shapes them, including parents who are the first place for the child to learn. It is in the nature of parents to be responsible for raising their children so that their lives are successful and happy.
Margot Machol Bisnow, author and parenting expert from the United States (USA), interviewed 70 parents who have raised their children to be highly successful adults. She documented the results of her research in the book “Raising an Entrepreneur: How to Help Your Children Achieve Their Dreams.”
In general, Margot found that parental communication plays an important role in shaping the future of children. Here are the phrases parents of kids growing up to be successful never use:
1. “I don’t believe you, so I check your homework and fix anything that’s wrong.”
All parents should emphasize the importance of responsibility from an early age. Guide your little ones to be responsible, to face their own problems, to learn from mistakes and to be more confident as they get older.
But this responsibility isn’t just about schoolwork. John Arrow, owner of Mutual Mobile, a major technology company, admits that when he was in the fifth grade, he and his friends wrote the school paper, which sold out instantly. However, they failed to verify the facts.
The principal is furious and his friends get into trouble with the parents. But John’s parents laughed and told him to correct his mistake.
“Knowing that my parents will always support me, even when the school is against me, makes me work even harder to show them that they made the right decision by trusting me,” John said.
2. “Mom/Dad will give you money if you get good grades.”
Giving money when children get good grades or complete other schoolwork is not recommended. When parents focus only on good results and grades in school, the child’s potential will wither before it can develop.
Grades and achievements in school are important, but don’t forget that parents also need to support the development of various other aspects of life so that children grow into positive individuals.
3. “Mom/Dad gives you extra pocket money so you can buy whatever you want.”
The negative impact of spoiling children comes from the habit of parents who grant all the wishes of the children. This habit indirectly makes children unable to learn the concept and attitude of responsibility.
Children who are used to being spoiled for money will become lazy, demotivated and even easily angry if their wishes are not granted. Eventually, they will grow up without emotional maturity and have difficulty coping with problems as they grow older.
The most important thing is to make children understand the use of pocket money and provide children with savings facilities.
4. “Don’t play after school until your grades improve.”
Many parents do not understand their children’s wishes and instead impose their will.
Parents should support their children’s wishes. Because playful activities help children learn to socialize, to make rules and agreements. This way, children have the opportunity to learn until they are able to make decisions.
(pgr/pgr)
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