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hello. The morning dawned at Dubuk Training Center.
After early morning prayer and meditation, the monk started his day with farming work. First he went to the field at the bottom of the mountain and harvested his branches. By the time the monk had harvested the branches to the end of each row, the Buddhist monks had arrived at the field. Master Seonju and Yeogwang came to Dubuk Training Center last night to hold a pilgrimage meeting.
“welcome. “Have one person put the branches in the basket, and one person harvest the outer branches.”
“yes.”
I harvested all the eggplants and also picked cucumbers and pumpkins. The leaves are turning yellow, but the harvest has still been good.
I came down the field at the bottom of the mountain and went to the rice field. Munsu team members were mowing the rice field banks.
“The time for the four hour prayer service is almost over. How much did you do?”
“You just need to do a little more.”
“Then I will join you.”
The monk quickly carried the lawnmower and went to the bank where there was a lot of grass left, and they cut the grass together.
When I finished one side, the pedestrian across from me was still cutting grass. The monk quickly went to the next rice field and cut the grass together.
Thanks to the support of the monk, we were able to finish mowing the rice field before the Sashi service.
“Thank you for your effort.”
“great job. “After praying for the four seasons, let’s go to the field on the mountain.”
While the monks of the Munsu team went to the training center and paid obeisance to the Buddha, the monk went with the Buddhist monks to the village elder’s field. He tried to cut the grass with a lawn mower, but the elder said there were beans growing between the grass. He cut the grass with a sickle, avoiding the beans.
After cutting all the grass in the senior’s field, we loaded the mower into the truck and went to the field on the mountain with the members of the Munsu team who had completed the four hour prayer service. The Buddhist monks went back to the field at the bottom of the mountain and thinned out the radishes.
Yesterday, I cut all the grass on the lower level with the walkers. Today I went up to the top and turned on the mower. The autumn wind was cool.
“It’s cold to play, but it’s the perfect weather to work.”
The monks and monks skillfully cut down all the grass, leaving behind only the peonies and bellflowers.
The road leading to the orchard was also mowed.
The entire field was mowed, but the monk did not turn off the mower. As I went down the field, I continued to cut the grass on the path.
I continued down the road leading into the village and cut the grass.
“Okay, now that we’ve paid for the meal, let’s eat.”
Even though the weather was cool, my back was soaked with sweat after working out all morning. As the saying goes, the market is a side dish, and the taste of rice I ate after crying was very good.
After lunch, we had a meeting to prepare for the pilgrimage to India from 2 PM. Dharma Seonju, Dharma Yeogwang, and members of the Munsu team who came down to the Dubuk Training Center for the meeting were also present.
With over 500 people going on a pilgrimage, there was a lot to check. First, we carefully checked the practical preparations, including the total number of people, bus reservations, accommodation allocation, and airplane ticket reservations.
In particular, this pilgrimage to India includes an event commemorating the 30th anniversary of Sujata Academy, so many guests from home and abroad will attend. The meeting concluded at 4pm after reviewing various aspects of how to proceed with the celebrations.
I took some time to go to the eye doctor. While running the lawn mower in the morning, I got a foreign substance in my eye and came back after receiving treatment.
After the sun set, we resumed the preparation meeting for the pilgrimage to India at 7:30 p.m. After checking various preparations such as materials, moving shared luggage, visas, and registering foreign participants, the meeting ended at 9 p.m.
Tomorrow, as soon as we wake up at 4 a.m., we go to Seoul, and in the morning, we do an online Friday impromptu live broadcast, in the afternoon, we hold an online meeting with Indian JTS activists, and in the evening, about 400 people attend the underground auditorium of Jeongto Social and Cultural Center. In the meantime, I plan to give an impromptu lecture offline.
Since there was no sermon today, I will end this article by sharing the contents of an impromptu speech held in Toronto, Canada on the 16th of last month.
“Last year, my high school son came to study abroad in Toronto, and a year later, this year, I took a difficult leave of absence from work and am living with my son. My son doesn’t go out on holidays or when he has free time; he always stays home. He doesn’t make friends, so I asked him why, and he said he didn’t want to make friends because it always ended badly. So, I tell him that every relationship has good and bad times and that if we get through those times well, our friendship will improve, but he doesn’t want to listen to me. Originally, I was supposed to finish high school next year, but I decided to finish early and go to Korea to work at a construction site.
I think the only thing I can do for my child right now is prepare food and pray. They say that most parents think their children are lacking, but I am praying with the hope that it is only in my eyes that the child appears to be lacking. “How should we look at our children?”
“If you place too many expectations and demands on your child, you will inevitably be disappointed. When a child is unable to form regular human relationships, you can first think about the differences in human tendencies, such as being active or passive. However, if it is too passive or too active, it is classified as abnormal. From a medical perspective, statistically, if it falls within 95%, it is said to be normal, and if it falls outside of 95%, it is said to be abnormal.
Therefore, even among normal people, psychologists classify each tendency from emotional to rational and analyze them into several types of personality. However, these classifications are all about people within the 95%, and people outside the 95% are treated as patients. This means that treatment is needed. However, among the people outside the 95%, there may be patients, but there may also be adults whom everyone respects. Saints like Jesus and Buddha are also outside of the 95%. Even geniuses are outside the 95%.
If you look closely at people, their tendencies are slightly different. The questioner should also take a close look at whether his son’s behavior is a characteristic of people within the normal range. If our son’s tendency falls into one of the many tendencies that children usually have, we must acknowledge that tendency. You shouldn’t try to change that. However, if you are outside the 95% range of normal people, for example, if you don’t leave the door open, or only play games, etc., you should be classified as a patient. In these cases, all the mother can do is ensure that her child receives treatment. If she breaks a leg or breaks an arm, she needs to heal mentally just as much as she heals her body.
Then why did the child get sick? First, most people are mentally weak due to their mother’s influence. Just because you’re influenced by your mother doesn’t necessarily mean you’ll get sick. You may get sick as a result of something like fighting with a friend during adolescence, or you may get sick after immigrating here and not being able to speak the language, or you may feel frustrated because your grades are not as good as you wanted, or these things will overlap and combine with your original weak tendency. This is what makes you sick. On the other hand, if you are mentally healthy from the beginning, you will not get sick no matter how much you fail. Also, even if you were mentally weak to begin with, you will not get sick unless there is a major change in your environment. However, if the two overlap, an outbreak occurs.
I think the questioner’s son is at the 95% borderline that separates normal from abnormal. So, it would be a good idea to take your child to the hospital and get a checkup first. If the doctor determines that the child’s personality is outside the normal range, it must be acknowledged. In that case, it is better to seek treatment. Treatment includes medication and counseling. We provide appropriate treatment to help bring the patient within the normal range, but we must acknowledge that he or she has a slightly passive tendency.
Some people have a tendency to make a lot of friends, and some people have a tendency to make only a few friends. You shouldn’t try to make those tendencies the same as others. Some people like to move out of the house, while others always look for their family and home. When you get married, there is a man who comes home right after work, and there is a man who travels all over the world and doesn’t come home until 12 o’clock at night.
A wife who lives with a husband who always comes home at 12 o’clock at night envies her husband who comes home early, and on the other hand, a wife who lives with a husband who comes home as soon as he wakes up asks, ‘Doesn’t the man have any friends?’ While doing so, she gets frustrated that she comes in too early. Because my husband sometimes has to come home late so I can go out and about. So, it is not good to only know your wife and family too much. Of course, wandering around too much is also a problem. Too much is always the problem.
Because there are many different types of human tendencies, it is very important to acknowledge that tendency and say, ‘My son has this tendency.’ If it is outside the normal range, some treatment is required. However, most children who refuse to go to school have mental problems, but there may also be creative pioneers among them. If the uniform school education of constant memorization and test-taking does not suit your temperament, that person has a very high level of creativity. In this case, you are not mentally ill. So, mothers need to have a conversation about whether their child is a misfit with the school system or a patient who has difficulty adapting.
‘What do you want?’
‘I want to try labor.’
‘Then give it a try.’
You need to have a conversation like this to open up your child’s characteristics. Those with special tendencies must be recognized, and those with mental illness must be treated. So, it would be a good idea to take it to the hospital first and get it checked out.
Mothers need to research their children. It’s not right to assume that there’s a problem just because she doesn’t do what I want. It is necessary to check what the child’s characteristics are and, if you are not sure, ask an expert and do some research.
It is highly likely that a child’s decision to go to Korea and do manual labor is a reaction against the mother’s excessive interference. The fact that her mother brought her child to a foreign country to study is already an obsession. Her child thinks that her mother will beg her to not study because her mother’s weakness is her studies. So the child’s words may be a threat.
From another perspective, your child’s late labor may be helpful in his or her treatment. It may be good for a child to postpone going to college and instead have time to overcome mental difficulties by doing manual labor.
So, you should first get a checkup at the hospital, and if there are no major problems as a result of the checkup, check whether the child is sincere in saying that he will return to Korea and do manual labor. This could simply be an attempt to intimidate her mother. If she says the child really wants to do that, she may be willing to accommodate. If she’s threatening her mother, she just needs to be threatened. “It is better for her to pretend to be scared and quietly help the child with his studies by saying, ‘But you still have to study’ or ‘Do whatever you want.’”
“thank you.”
2023-10-07 20:45:19
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