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(town post office): Warning from researcher and lecturer at Stockholm University, Torbjörn Bildtgård: Men over 60 must get off the sofa if they want to avoid divorce.
Because throughout the Western world, divorce statistics are increasing for couples who have grown up well.
The movement began in the United States, where it goes by the name “the gray divorce”. The divorce rate for couples age 60 and older has increased by 30 percent since 2005, according to in article in VG.
Bildtgård says the following:Most older couples divorce because they want different things for the rest of their lives. It is often the women who take the initiative. They want to be active, and the men want to take it easy.”
It is not at all strange that you want to continue to experience things, explore the world and maybe rediscover some of the curiosity in a relationship, when you are at the point in your life to reach where the economy for most people suggests that you can “hit. roof”.
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The risk of realizing after 30-40 years that you are only together out of old habit is definitely present. You don’t have to be a dating therapist to know that if you no longer have common interests or experience anything other than gray weekdays together, much of the glow in a relationship will also disappear.
Lene Grønvold has written Master’s thesis “The adult divorce”. Her conclusion is that those who are divorcing now are the most divorcing generation in the last 20-30 years.
The difference is that they continue to separate well into adulthood.
She points out two specific situations that cause many couples to move apart: This is when the children move out and this is when both become pensioners.
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Bildtgård uses the following example: “Maybe the woman wants to be active; go out to eat, go to the theatre, meet friends and travel, while the man wants to watch TV.” Another finding is that women do not find a new partner to the same extent as men after divorce. But a “gray divorce” does not mean a happy divorce.
In the past, divorce statistics dropped significantly after the age of 50, but times are changing here as well.
Now, not every situation is worth paying attention to, but the best thing is to try to figure it out. It is clear that the younger ones rule it, because in these age groups the divorce figures are going down.
Everyone needs to know the recipe for good sex. But it might be wise to talk about it before you get there, pull the “divorce card” out of the pocket of your walking trousers and show it to the old man, who has sunk into the armchair to Norway’s elite football series to see on. TV.
In my opinion, it must be pure folly to let her go and watch an amateur “kick the ball”.
2024-08-10 15:50:28
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