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It begs you to ask why hasn’t it happened before? What caused this momentary lack of self-confidence?
Before I got pregnant for the first time, I lost a lot, as much as 69 kg. But then there was a yo-yo effect and the kilos began to come back. Then I was overwhelmed by an inner anxiety, which people will say that I have lost so much weight and that these kilograms have come back again. Therefore, earlier on my Instagram profile you could not see my photos, sooner the photos of my son. Even today, I still hear often: you will not tell me that being 69 kg lighter, you did not feel better then. Or: why did you lose so much weight then, if you accept yourself. So I keep explaining that accepting your body does not exclude the desire to change your appearance. The fact that we love ourselves and our body does not mean that we do not want to lose weight e.g. for health. Did I feel better at that time? I think I felt the same way, because kilos don’t really matter when you feel mentally well.
And what kind of girl were you, if you were as self-confident and self-confident as you are now?
I liked being the center of attention, brave, full of energy, I was always on stage at school. Most of all, however, my self-esteem was mainly influenced by the fact that when I was a child, I never heard from anyone: hey, you fat boy. I’ve always felt accepted and that’s probably why I’ve never had a problem with what I look like. Even when my body had a huge rash of skin lesions caused by psoriasis, which I have been suffering from since the age of eight. Yes, it was not comfortable for me, but on the other hand, I was not ashamed of it and I was not completely covered with veils. I did not hide under my clothes, behind long sleeves or pants. It is true that when someone asked what was wrong with me, for the sake of peace of mind I would answer: allergy, but only because at that time people did not know about psoriasis and thought it was contagious. Today it is different and the awareness of what disease psoriasis is is much greater.
When you look at your photos, it is easy to notice that you are playing with fashion, it gives you a lot of joy, and your husband also supports you in this passion.
That’s true. It is he who takes photos of me and, interestingly, not with a professional camera, but with an ordinary smartphone, and I think that’s why people like my profile. I want to show that if something is ordinary and natural, it can also be fun and you don’t have to do great things and a big session for a lot of money. Fashion is fun, so let’s have fun! Besides, I have always liked taking pictures, standing on both sides of the lens and today I have a lot of fun doing it.
However, it still happens that some people don’t like it and, as you mentioned, they send you unpleasant messages. How do you react to them?
I have had one time in my life when news of this type made me tearful. It was when my husband and I boasted that we were expecting a second child. Then a huge hate fell on me. I read that I was irresponsible, that I could get pregnant by looking like this. It was written that I was hurting not only myself but also my child. There was a lot of terrible news that made me very sad. Under my heart I had the child of my dreams, and meanwhile so many unpleasant words poured out on me. Today, however, I do not allow anyone to come on my head and destroy everything that I work for and build with their evil word. I don’t even get into any discussions, I just cut myself off from them.
Not only that, you support other plus size women with your confidence, smile and naturalness.
You know, it is sad when they write to me that they hear offensive words about appearance from family, friends, and even from their partner. My heart breaks. One of them said that she once left home in black, fitted dress and met her friend’s mother. It was then that she heard from her that she looked good, probably because she was fat or pregnant. The girl tearfully replied that she was not pregnant because she had just recently lost her second child. It’s terrible that even close people can comment on someone’s figure without thinking and cause pain to girls like me. Your children I explain that it does not matter if someone is fat, thin, red, has a different skin color, orientation, cross-eyed, or wears glasses. It doesn’t make him a worse person, it really doesn’t matter. Everyone has to be respected, because everyone has the same rights, and the value of man is in his heart and head.
It’s a beautiful brace for our conversation. Thank you for her.
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