Amidst the sounds of hunting, some warm advice for “Maileen-style Housewives” |

Mai Lin‘s suffering should not be lost in the noise of the war.

The second episode of “Goodbye Lover” was broadcast, and the rise in public opinion continues to this day. After all, Yang Zi’s “nothing like father” character is rarely found, but many children who grew up in East Asian families will remember Mai’s “suffocating mother” A river of memories.

Seeing Li Xingliang’s sacrificial discipline without power, excessive frugality, and hard work, we sympathized with our own youth and launched a heated discussion on “What does Mai Lin want?” At first, the answers revolved around affirmation, love, and self-worth, but as more details were discovered and questioned, the “judgment” Mai Lin received became harsher.

From “She only cares about material things, she asked Li Xingliang to kneel in front of all her friends to donate Hermès.”

In just one episode, Mai Lin went from a sunny but sensitive housewife to a greedy and cunning person who pretends to be a pig and eats the tiger. What happened in the middle? Has the true identity been revealed, or is it a demonic carnival? By exploring the whole picture of housewives’ lives, perhaps we can be more tolerant.

There are two main arguments on the Internet to prove that Mai Lin “worships money”:

1. Mai Lin said that many rich people chased her when she was young. Everyone feels that Mai Lin is trying to win over Li Xingliang through suppression, comparison, and emotional coercion.

2. Netizens suspected that they had two apartments in a first-class city, a nanny at home, and that their company, Mai Lin, held 90% of the shares In addition , Li Xingliang’s parents had died contemporary Lin Daiyu, while Mai Lin wanted to disappear.

At first glance, do you think that Mai Lin is a crazy woman who only cares about money? But if you understand the whole picture of their lives, you will find that this view seems rather extreme.

The two met and fell in love in 2009 during the sales company’s new employee training At that time, Li Xingliang had no money. Instead, with Mai Lin’s company, he began the road to becoming a singer. When Li Xingliang participated in “Happy Boys” in 2010, Mai Lin acted as a stylist and makeup artist, helping him find votes and supporting him.

After “Happy Boys” ended, Li Xingliang’s career was still declining, so Mai Lin came to Beijing to fully support him. As for life, I learned to cook and take care of it; financially, I went to the wholesale market to buy earrings and opened an online store to support my family when the weather was cold.

It was not until 2012 that Li Xingliang appeared on “The Voice of China” and in the same year he released the single “Wish to Win One’s Heart”, which was considered a starting point in the entertainment industry. . Over the years, she had always been his warmest and most powerful supporter.

Some people envy Mai Lin that she has a good life and her boyfriend won’t leave her even if he becomes popular, but why should he leave her? In Li Xingliang’s success story, his efforts and achievements are clearly in the spotlight; Mai Lin’s support as a backup is spot on. The hidden contributions of housewives are always underestimated.

In addition, people who are interested in money will try their best to spend money on themselves, but Mai Lin is very frugal herself. She is afraid of not having money and she loves money. Li Xingliang also said that Mai Lin’s frugality was very important for his family to be able to buy a house, but the “big apartment” she got through frugality became an argument for people to attack her for “not be satisfied”.

Frugality also has both positive and negative sides.

Mai Lin didn’t care about money, so why did she say that to Li Xingliang? Where do we need to obey?

Pictures of Mai Lin when she was young

Mai Lin wants love and care from Li Xingliang, but the subtext is that she can’t feel his love and care now. She is not greedy for money, she is greedy for love!

To summarize, some of Mai Lin’s actions are indeed painful, but this is not her subjective intention. So back to the original question: What kind of love does Mai Lin want?

The “ghost-in-the-wall” conversation started by the wardrobe is the reason why Mai Lin was suffocated by the complaints and made everyone talk about “what she wants”.

In fact, this is the same as the story of Melody “Rotten Peach” What they want to solve is not the specific problem of peaches and clothes, but the “own” dilemma of a full-time housewife being “on the margin” in the family.

The life of a full-time housewife revolves around the family, and it is a “daily duty” to give to the husbands and their children naturally accept this kind of contribution, however, when as it becomes normal to pay a lot without getting equal results, complaints and grievances naturally arise.

Of course, Mai Lin felt that it was wrong, and Li Xingliang felt even more guilty because he had already done a lot. He flew to buy the Youth League, dressed as a doll to celebrate her birthday, and usually kissed and hugged her, but Mai Lin was not satisfied.

Netizen: Mai Lin must Huang Zitao. Use an extremely strong energy to tell the world and her again: I love you. Don’t ask if you want a cashmere coat, just buy it directly from you.

This is the problem. Only her husband’s development, recognition and concern will prove her “worthiness”. This requires too much energy from the partner, and it is too difficult to continue providing emotional value despite rejection and inhibition.

I want to tell Mai Lin that if you keep basing your self-worth on others, it will be a bottomless pit of love that no one can fill. Lack of Love Do you know that the thing you need most is your own love.

We have made it clear that Mai Lin personally has no malice but only love. Because in more than ten years of living as a housewife, Mai Lin developed a bad subconscious mind and could not love anymore.

In Mai Lin, we see the “wrong” side of many mothers. While he shouts that no one asks for anything in return, one talks about one’s hard work; it cannot accurately express one’s requests, and “I want coffee” must be turned into “Do I deserve a cup of coffee?” for control…

Why is it so strange? Because they are stuck in a “selfish” praise trap.

Women’s love is always associated with “self-sacrifice” under social themes or a good mother.

Giving = greatness, on the other hand “getting” means uncertainty and debt. They are willing to pay back, and because of their “independent” aura, they do not allow themselves to be in a low moral position, so they cannot always feel comfortable whether they are making requests or receiving sacrifices.

Of course, Mai Lin doesn’t need to be so pretty, because her husband is an ordinary person, which is why everyone always thinks that Mai Lin is “greedy”. Li Xingliang gave her the most basic demand of ordinary housewives: respect. Along with financial power, Mai Lin wants to pursue a higher level of “care and love”. The demands are absolutely correct, but the methods and concepts are backward.

It cannot be denied that due to backward control and psychology, Mailin’s behavior lags behind changes in life circumstances, which is painful. But instead of letting the pain continue with the blame, we might as well think about how to improve.

First of all, it is clear that the cause of their strange situation is mainly due to structural social factors. They are also victims. Please be more patient~

Second, Mailins can’t have it both ways, and neither can we. Li Xingliang now feels Mai Lin suffocating.

Sometimes they haven’t changed, but our standards and needs have. I want them to stop complaining and work together to relieve stress, rather than deprive them of their right to speak.

Of course, before social concepts are completely reversed, the most important thing is still the mind of housewives! I hope all the housewives can redeem themselves, whether they continue to take care of their families or explore more opportunities, and work hard to learn how to love themselves!